On the one hand, I feel it is my civic duty to get thigh-highs and that similar fabric to cover the the hands/arms, with a mini skirt and short top, taking a picture of my libreboot thinkpad with neofetch running. 😅

i never did and probably never will. that’s also why my code usually does not compile. i know.

i started in waves. everytime i went to a shop and searched for a fit i’d wear as everyday-fit. in part even for work. something i felt comfy in. that gave me a lot of basics (plain skirts, shirts in a more fem cut …), that i can then combine with more fancy stuff. some of my drag-fits are getting a second life that way. a bit toned down. ;)

probably the first piece was a purse I bought myself as a teenager from a festival (it was hand-made by a local).

Then it was the hand-me-down jeans from my mom that fit me better than men’s jeans and felt nicer to wear.

Then when I was on my own, it was skirts I bought from a department store.

Then I repressed for over a decade and during that time I had a few drab skirts and a couple simple, drab dresses that I exclusively wore at home because it made me feel better inexplicably.

Then when I transitioned, it was all the clothes: skirts, blouses, dresses (oh so many dresses: lemon dresses, long sleeveless dresses that combine with wraps well, colorful summer flowy dresses with straps, a strapless dress that felt perfect for a beach, formal black dresses, flowery spring dresses, etc.), wraps of various kinds (my favorite were soft cotton lounge wraps), and then a few sweaters for colder weather (turtle necks looked awful when I started HRT because my neck was so fat, but a few years in I think they look OK on me now, at least not horrible).

I do have a single blazer, I wore it to a party recently with a nice red blouse and plaid above-the-knee skirt and I think it went well?

In general a blazer (esp. with slacks) can come across as masculine, so do with that what you will.

Shoes are also a struggle, but my feet really changed with HRT and now I fit women’s sizes much better.

I started transitioning over 11 years ago. One of my college friends gave me a huge box of hand-me-downs and told me to take anything I wanted, and donate the rest. I still have my favorite jacket from that even though it doesn’t fit me any more

Your tastes will definitely change over time. I used to wanna try all fem clothing at the start, nowadays I’m usually in jeans and a T-shirt

My very first order of gender affirming clothes I got was black shiny leggings and a hoodie with flowers on it. That felt great! I was so stuck in grey/blue/black jeans & t-shirt that even a different pattern and lighter colours felt exciting. I later got a bra I stuffed for shape under t-shirts which was very fun. Then I got a very dramatic witchy dress I wore like three times. Then a bodycon dress. I loved the sensation of wearing something tight because I never did before. I also got a flower-print office skirt I liked. I wore all this in secret at home though. I also got a skater skirt and some bodysuits, two of which I actually still wear to this day!

Basically, I mostly got shapes, materials and pieces in general that just don’t exist in the men’s section and they sparked a great deal of joy. This was 8 years ago now and I’ve since grown out of most of the stuff I got at the beginning. It was all very cheap and not very stylish. But I don’t regret getting the clothes I got, I had fun with them and they helped me learn about myself and find out what I like. I also had no idea about fashion back then so I had to experiment quite a bit and it took me a few years to really understand what looks good on me and what doesn’t. And I’m still learning, probably.

edit: oh and also high-waisted pants! Loved when I first wore them and still do.

all the family (mother and sister) in my household are other girls/women (eccentric, lesbian women no less), and given our similar proportions we share/borrow much clothes with eachother. we used to live somewhere super north so we have a lot of baggier and skin-covering clothes, especially hoodies, as well as a lot of stockings and arm warmers (that “similar fabric to cover the hands/arms”) for obvious reasons. i did of course experiment a lot with these!

personally i also began dressing by just seeing what other people around me wore, then tried to suit that to my own preferences. it definitely does take a little experience though, but of course there’s only one way to get that, so don’t be afraid to experiment :) (even if it’s just in the confines of your or your friend’s home).

currently the trend in my city is sweats and hoodies, but when i started out jeans were especially fashionable, so i tried those out, per the suggestion of a friend (note: friends are great for this!).

uh as for tops, again i have borrowed many a coat/dress/sweater from my family. still though, i found there were absolutely styles that are better than others for me. early on i discovered the fun that colorful clothing can be, and i haven’t really stopped since! graphic tees are awesome too. starting out, sweaters were mostly my favorite, but there were a few that really emphasized my wide shoulders, which i personally hated.

aside from that, it took me a while to feel confident going out with makeup. my mother is a jeweler though, so i have a lot of bracelets and other fun stuff like that!

clothing is so so fun, so do experiment as much as you can! this is just scratching the surface of what i wear

On the one hand, I feel it is my civic duty to get thigh-highs and that similar fabric to cover the the hands/arms, with a mini skirt and short top, taking a picture of my libreboot thinkpad with neofetch running. 😅

OH MY GOD i feel called THE HELL out… x3

if you do this though i think !unixsocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone would love it

Before I transitioned, I was a girl-passing femboy, so it’s really tough to nail down what outfit or specific item made me feel feminine. But as my style continued to evolve, I continue to feel good.

Every day I live is a cold revenge against the people who don’t want me alive.

This jumper from monki. It’s still my favourite jumper. Everyone grins when they see it.

I got a few maxi skirts, very loose and swishy sort. Enough androgynous people wear them that you can get by as a hipster if you don’t want to be out, but they’re swishy and fun enough to give the euphoria!

The first thing I bought was a skirt from Next. I kinda hate it now. Then I bought a skirt from amazon that was considerably more spinny and also came in pink. Urban CoCo. The fallback for all newly hatched eggs and frankly I think it holds up great. I still get compliments on my Urban CoCo skirts afterall

I’d also measure shoulder width and sleeve length for tops and dresses, and inseam (leg length) for pants - women’s clothing comes in a lot of different shapes and they won’t all fit.

What finally broke me was I bought a skater skirt, crop top, and thigh highs off the internet; as is tradition.

My first gender euphoria was dressing in drag for rocky horror at 15. I had a fishnet top with a studded bra underneath and a short blonde wig. Very fun alt girl vibes. Its the happiest photo i have of myself at that age lol

Euphoooooooria 😊

Was pretty overwhelming in the shops with the choices and all. Never liked clothes shopping.

Only went for top pieces, with the blouse in the picture and a similar one in green. Also a little vest and shirt underneath.
The vest absolutely sucks. Definitely gonna return that one. And while the blouses both seem a size too small, I was so happy trying them on. omfg. That this is even possible. I actually lack the words to articulate myself.