So happy for you!! It’s amazing that your daughter is so enthusiastically supportive of your journey in self discovery :) that support is invaluable. It sounds like you have some great ideas on ways you can explore your gender and examine your gender feelings in an environment that feels safe with support from your family.

Processing your gender as you explore it is hard, and I can understand how it can be hard for spouses as well. However, your wife should be patient and understanding with you, and when you tell her that this is a serious thing for you and you need her genuine support through this. It’s not fair to you to get the “Yeah right” treatment about this. It will take time for her to process, that’s fair. But she shouldn’t diminish your feelings through this. I hope she lends you full support in whatever you choose to do, even in the event of going to a con in full Gothic Lolita 😊 which btw sounds absolutely amazing haha. My exploration of gender was very quiet and at home and normative. I only started really expressing myself through fashion and presentation a lot this year.

Billionaire white woman no less. Who’s best friends with a Nazi, a homophobe, and a gaggle of upper middle class bigots who share her belief that society should adhere to anything they so desire including legally discriminating against anyone who is different from them.

Mhm. And why wouldn’t they want to talk with her, the unbiased paragon of tolerance that she is. I’m surprised they aren’t offering for her to head up a new political office who’s sole purpose is to determine if trans people should have rights or not.

There are some places along the nose you can apply concealer to help give it a thinner shape! Tons of guides online on where to apply it. Loads of them are by and for transfems too :)

Uhhh, not sure what you’re talking about with contouring makeup. It is literally ubiquitous in modern makeup? And your face isn’t 2 dimensional… it lightens and darkens parts of your skin to emphasize and diminish certain facial features.

For many trans women emphasizing and diminishing certain facial features is hugely confidence boosting.

Also, please don’t refer to plastic surgery as “doing a Michael Jackson”. Please respect people’s right to decide what they want to do with their bodies. Read through the sidebar if you haven’t already, this is a safe space for transfeminine people. Many of us opt for facial surgeries to undo effects of testosterone during puberty.

Yeah, you’re in a community for women and feminine people.

You are 100% welcome to participate here 😊

I love the bring 2 suits idea. Never thought of that but that sounds great so you don’t feel stuck with what you’re wearing! I think probably will get a cover-up of some kind too :)

And yeaaaaa swimming cap is definitely a no for me 😂 I put way too much time into my hair to just cover it anyway lol. I’m so bad at putting my hair up so yeah I’ll have to peak around for some tutorials, thanks for the recommendation 😊

Love that advice! The first few times I went bra shopping, I had a friend tag along with me, and honestly, I still do sometimes. I can see how with swimsuits, sizing and aesthetics and styles could put a lot of critical emphasis on your body. I think bringing one of my friends along with me would help a lot. :)

And I can totally see what you mean. It’s kinda nerve wracking considering wearing something where so much skin is visible for the first time. I’m trying to keep the confidence I feel in my everyday clothes going haha but that little voice in my head is worrying about my cellulite and my tummy 🙃 I was thinking high waisted would look very cute on me (I look amazing in high waisted shorts and skirts) and I was determined to wear a 2 piece so haha. Might consider adding a sheer beach cover-up? I’ve seen some pretty cute ones.

Also, how do you manage your hair at the beach? I have very long hair and have been trying to think how best to manage it when swimming.

Absolutely love your hair 💕 you’re so pretty!! I hope you have a lovely day 😊

Love your hair!! And your glasses 😊💗 they’re very cute!

Love the colors 😍 I’m wearing a shimmery bluish purple called Galactic by a Canadian drug store brand called Quo. Having a super busy week with work but at least the weather is nice.

Not that I’ve ever heard of. The main things doctors generally monitor are blood estrogen and testosterone. High T levels can inhibit breast growth, and the same with low E levels.

Worth speaking with a medical professional (if you have one) about how you feel about your results. Doses may need to be adjusted. You should be on some form of estrogen, and an anti-androgen depending on your E dose.

I’ve had multiple nitrate treatments for granulation tissue and have used liners yeah. It clears up eventually so long as you treat it.

I’m not sure this process is very well understood. There’s many different factors that can change sensory experiences like orgasm. Estrogen, in my experience, caused arousal to build slower, and that kind of accompanied a decrease in libido. Progesterone helped a bit with that. I’m also post op though, and I would say surgery changed my experience of orgasm and sexuality a lot more than hormones did. I’d say before surgery it had noticeably changed over the years, but not as much as I thought it might.

How hormone levels affect orgasm isn’t well understood. For me, it changed gradually but also accompanied a lot of other changes to my experience of sexuality and I’m not confident to what degree the change was physiological vs. psychological in nature.

I think most people would say within the first 2 years you will experience some change in your experience of orgasm. But to what extent exactly is highly variable and subjective.

I think making a community for trans voice help is a fantastic idea. If such a community is made I would definitely link to it in the sidebar.

Estrogen itself has anti-androgenic properties. It is possible to solely take estrogen as a feminization hormone regimen but the dose has to go up quite a bit.

This is subjective but I did no laser or electrolysis before my bottom surgery. My surgeon did electro as part of the operation and I have had no problems over a year out with hair.

As for how to find one, it depends on: how you’re paying, if you have insurance coverage, how far you’re willing to travel, what your cost limits are, what surgical technique interests you, and what you think about each individual surgeon. Read lots of reviews and email the surgical clinics you’re interested in. Ask for costs and information booklets, they have them in abundance I assure you.

For me I didn’t pick my surgeon, I just went with the only option I could have covered. And I am very happy with my results. Your insurance company, if you’re insured, can give you information about what procedures and what surgeons are covered. There are options for essentially making your insurance cover it, but that’s longer than I can go into in this short comment. You also will need two recommendation letters from WPATH certified clinicians, good place to start on getting the surgery is getting those. They also can help with getting some of the costs covered.

Long and short of it, do your research. Read up on forums where trans women talk about their experiences with certain surgeons. Investigate coverage options. And consider your individual needs and finances most of all. Once you’re past the initial stage and into the full planning stage, you’ll have lots of other work to do. For now I’d focus on making some more concrete plans.

Given the specificity of that definition I also would say that 25 would be abnormal for a person assigned male at birth to be undergoing puberty. Most everyone is done the development of secondary sex characteristics by 18 at the latest. But how your body hormonally develops doesn’t just stop at some arbitrary point. Your secondary sex characteristics will fluctuate a lot between 20 and 30. Some factors more than others, but I don’t think most people would consider their bodies fully developed at 18. I don’t have a statistical basis for that, just subjective experience myself and with those around me. My testosterone based puberty was for all intents and purposes done at 16, but my body did go on to change significantly even after that point.

I haven’t added anyone from Lemmy on discord. You must be mistaking me for someone else.