Trans woman - 9 years HRT

Intersectional feminist

Queer anarchist

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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • When doing injections your level of hormones does not remain consistent over the period in between your shots. This can definitely lead to hormonal days on both ends of the week when your levels are very high or getting lower. I haven’t experienced this directly myself though, so I’ll let someone else chime in with some first hand experience with it.



  • I don’t have a lot to add that hasn’t been said. I just want to say that I used to think I’d never pass and used to deny myself all the things I wanted for that reason. Preventing myself from being overtly feminine made me feel more detached from who I was and less confident in my presentation. It’s hard to pass as a woman if you never present yourself as one. You have to develop your presentation. It takes time. It can be awkward.







  • I’m glad that you’ve chosen to separate yourself from what is ultimately a very toxic community of people who have a very, very black and white view of society and gender.

    Looking “like a woman” doesn’t mean one specific thing. I know it’s hard to think that way, but gender is a construct as much as it affects our lives. Women, passing women specifically, come in all shapes and sizes. Look all different ways. There is no “shape of a woman” or “face of a woman” or even “voice of a woman”. That’s simply not how human biology works. I say this not to dismiss your dysphoria, but to point out that you’re probably comparing yourself with a very specific construction of womanhood and femininity. Comparing yourself to an imaginary figure in this manner is bad for you. It has direct consequences for your mental health.

    Women look all kinds of different ways and still pass. Stop hyperfixating on the specific feminine ideals of beauty that are spread across all levels of society and notice the way women look in your own community. Follow influencers and content creators who do not fit societal conventions of physical femininity and yet are undeniably women.

    Passing is possible for us. It’s a combination of many factors, but chiefly among them is self-confidence and assuredness. Gender is socially a performance. It’s a set of behaviors, presentations, and attitudes. What determines whether you pass or not is chiefly how clear your performance is. Hence why people who have bodies very well aligned with social conventions for women can still be misgendered or treated differently if they are gender non-conforming in presentation or behavior.

    If passing is something important to you, then it is absolutely something you can do. Learn to do your makeup, get a feminine hair style and take really good care of your hair, start taking care of your skin, wear overtly feminine clothing that makes you feel good, notice the way that women around you talk and move and start to emulate it. It might not be possible to pass literally 100% of the time, but there’s a vast difference between passing 5% of the time and passing 90% or even 80% of the time. It’s not satisfying, and I know, I get it, the desire for it to just happen for you to just immediately be always seen as a cis woman is strong. But that’s not in line with how gender works.

    And I’m not saying that I agree with it working this way, I would call myself a gender abolitionist who thinks everyone should be entitled to have whatever body and presentation they want. However, whether we like it or not, that’s how society views and treats gender. If your goal is to pass as a cis woman, then you have to seem like one when someone meets you. Which is more than just your face shape or your fat distribution or so on. Not that those things aren’t factors, but lots of cis women have different face shapes, broad shoulders, narrow hips, and so on. They also perform gender a certain way. And lots of women have all the things women are socially told their bodies should have, and they can still be misgendered when not performing gender the expected way.





  • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zonei started diy hrt today
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    2 months ago

    This community is CATEGORICALLY supportive of DIY HRT. You do not have the right to insert yourself into her decision to take DIY. She does not need you to inform her of the risks. Or for you to interrogate her over whether she knows what she’s doing.

    I’ve removed all your comments and banned you for the day. Please read the rules of this community before engaging here.


  • Not really, no. The main difference is that body razors have a differently shaped razor attachment. It’s a bit wider and has a bevel around it to make it easier to use on parts of your body with curves like your legs. They also usually have different built-in skin hydrating bars or whatever they’re called to make it easier on your skin, I think. Honestly, I’m not too clear on it, haha.

    I shave using the Schick hydro silk razors once a week. I usually don’t get any cuts and if I do I replace the blade. I have a pack of 9 that you can buy to have on hand. You should replace them regularly cause when they get dull, they’re more likely to dig in and cut you. I use sensitive skin shaving cream, no particular brand whatevers on sale. I also use this razor on sensitive areas once a week and find it works just fine. I have a specific shaving routine to try and minimize in grown hairs and skin irritation. Whenever I shave, and whenever I shower more generally, I use a body lotion to keep my skin hydrated. Super easy to dry out and that will also impact your results with body shaving.

    On the higher end there’s still like epilators and IPL devices, which might be worth looking into long term. Shaving suits me fine. For me it’s worth the half an hour time investment once a week.


  • It’s okay! Early on will be a lot of community building and connecting with people and groups who are interested in what we’re doing or have similar goals. You are welcome to join whenever you are able or feel prepared to do so!

    I will try and make a regular habit of posting some form of updates here to keep the topic fresh in people’s minds and generate new interest.






  • You’re right that leaving is your best bet. That isn’t a reality for millions of queer people, however. Leaving isn’t always feasible, or many of the queer people still in deep red states would already be gone.

    It’s time for us to make moves to prepare ourselves to contend with this administration and political agenda. Networks need to be made, connections between suppliers of DIY hormones and communities at risk of losing Healthcare need to be established.

    As much as we need to help people get out, we also need to confront the fact that not everyone can, and this is the reality we live in now. I’m just saying, “Get out while you still can” isn’t enough. We need to ready ourselves for a much more long-term fight against this system. Everyone who can should be getting involved.