Stay safe sis. Make sure to let someone know where you’re going and put your own safety first. I’m so sorry youve had these experiences. I would just stop using Taimi entirely. I’ve dated men before though and yeah I could go on about all the horrible experiences I’ve had.

Its tough out here. Hope your week is off to a lovely start 🩷

Ive been to a few before tbh. 10 is gigantic but Ive been in a clothes store that was 5 floors, 4 of which were women’s and 1 of which was half men’s half kids.

The post isn’t about a man, its about a woman. This is her experience with allowing herself to explore her gender presentation.

Yes men are allowed to shop in the women’s section. Men can present however they want to, and in a fair and just world would be allowed to do so without repercussions. This post is in the transfeminine community however and really does not concern men.

How is this a rehash of women be shopping? I’m a woman, I enjoy shopping, am I not allowed to rejoice in that? Or are you saying that transfeminine people must avoid any kind of behavior or preference associated with western feminine gender roles?

I think you might have it somewhat backwards at the very end there. I also felt tired early on, more drowsy and sleeping longer and stuff. I think for me a big part of it was Spiro.

But the noticeable sleepiness went away after a few months for me. Like idk if I just on the whole adjusted to feeling that way, or my brain chemistry acclimated to the new hormones. But either way I think it does go away for some people eventually, and I think its very pronounced early on.

Okay so you can place a child in a home without their consent where they are abused for an aspect of themselves they cannot change. So just. Torturing queer children for fun. This is illegal. This is categorically against the human rights conventions of the UN that the US has signed. This is a crime against humanity. Conversion therapy basically flat out doubles the rate of death by suicide. Youve taken these children from their families and now sticking them into households where they will be hated and abused in every possible way. Trying to force a child to change their sexuality or gender is sexual abuse. The rate of death by suicide for victims of childhood sexual abuse is significantly higher.

This is torture. Thats torture. Thats intent to destroy. This is literally a law designed with the express intent of creating genocidal actions against queer people.

I put my foot down with all my family. I will loudly cut them off, ignore them if they address me with my deadname, awkwardly interrupt them and insist they change terms. I mean I just generally was as persistent and as annoying as possible. Made it very clear that they were gonna change or I was gone. In the end they got the message and adapted. It took a while though. Anyone who refused to adapt I cut out. I have 0 time or patience for someone who doesnt respect me. I have cut off friends and family who have been a part of my life since I was a young child because they wouldnt respect me. I’m not going to lower myself that way.

You deserve better than that. They dont deserve your respect if they will not respect you.

I commented this on a previous post about pregnancy dysphoria. Still holds true to how i feel,

I’ve mostly made peace with the fact that it will never happen. It hurts very badly sometimes but it is what it is. I really want to be a mom one day, and when I am able to I will love my children with all my heart. For me, being a mom is my life’s dream. I wish I could conceive my own children but, I can’t. Someday it will be a reality for women like us but it’s not there yet and I’m really not holding out any hope that it will be within my life time. Even if it does happen in my lifetime I don’t want to spend my life waiting for something that is unlikely to ever happen for me. Focusing on how ultimately being a mom itself is my dream has helped me cope. Because that is something I can work towards today.

I really strongly empathize with this pain though. I’ve cried myself to sleep over it many times. I hope you’re able to find what helps make it easier for you.

I generally dont ask if anyone wants to come with. If anyone has to go I feel like they usually will be like oh I have to go too and then come along. Sometimes I will ask close friends if they have to go too. Especially if the bathrooms are far from where we’re sitting / dancing.

If you also have to go at the same time yeah for sure you can be like oh ill come with i have to go too.

I do wait if we’re both going to the bathroom at the same time. Usually just stand by the door after I wash my hands. But it depends how well I know the person ig and if we had been talking. Some women are super chatty and will talk to you the whole time haha but I feel like most of us aren’t. It’s just nice to group up.

I cannot wrap my head around where this was coming from or how you could possibly believe this was supportive. She made a post about a validating experience with a date, and you immediately thought to counter her validation? How tf is that supportive

I feel like youre saying this weirdly in response to a coalition of school boards refusing to discriminate against their trans students? They are definitionally looking out for the humans. Unless you think trans students do not constitute “the humans”.

Super cute! Hope you have a lovely day 😊

By going and observing you are implicitly endorsing that there is some value in what they do there. You might ideologically disagree, but even by observing it you’re showing that what they do is worth observing.

I use a similar logic with fascists. Its not a bad thing to be informed on how fascists and terfs think. As a community we can best protect ourselves by understanding who seeks to attack us and defending ourselves accordingly. Thats one of the reasons communities like blahaj.zone are so important. No corporations can come here, and terfs and fascists are banned wherever they appear.

There is nothing of value in what happens in that community. TERFs dont hate us because they have a rational framework of disagreement with us, they hate us because we are trans. They despise that very core of who we are. It’s not like there are any grounds for discussion with them. I can’t convince someone who hates trans people that trans people do not deserve hate. They weren’t convinced to begin with. They hated people who are different from them, people who do not fit into the boundaries of sexuality and gender they see as sacred. There is nothing to be gained from speaking with them. There is nothing to be gained from debating them. There is nothing to be gained from paying attention to them. I can tell you right now what you will find there. You already know what you will find there yourself. It serves nothing to look. You’re only inflicting actual real psychological harm on yourself by going there, and giving them attention only feeds their desire to cause you pain. They hate us. They want to call us slurs to our faces to make us feel bad about ourselves. They delight in our suffering. They know that trans people go there, that is ostensibly the point, and they love that, they love that trans people go to that community and suffer real psychological harm from engaging with them.

Ive argued with many a terf and transphobe in my day. Along with loads of racists and misogynists and homophobes and fascists. I spent a significant part of my early 20s arguing with them. And I’ll be honest and tell you that frequently engaging with and seeing and hearing the things they say hurt me and traumatized me on deep foundational levels that I am still working to heal from. It is categorically not worth it. It’s not worth it. They dont care what you think, they want you to read what they say and be in pain because of it.

You have to respect yourself enough to stop. I know that sounds harsh, and I genuinely dont mean to be harsh. It just comes down to that. You are worth more than a source of pain for ravenous bigots. You dont deserve to be subjected to that every day. The world is full of joy too. Trans joy is real. I find my time far better spent engaging with trans solidarity and joy. You should block the site and move on. The temptation fades with time. You have to choose to look at better things.

What a cute and meaningful story. Those moments of feeling affirmed and understood are so important. It can be so hard to feel welcome to womanhood.

Apology accepted. I appreciate you taking the time to respond and say that.

I dont understand why you felt the need to add the first part, as though anyone struggling with infertility is unaware of how difficult it is.

Unfortunately the human mind isn’t rational in this way. Otherwise no one would ever choose to get pregnant.

I’ve mostly made peace with the fact that it will never happen. It hurts very badly sometimes but it is what it is. I really want to be a mom one day, and when I am able to I will love my children with all my heart. For me, being a mom is my life’s dream. I wish I could conceive my own children but, I can’t. Someday it will be a reality for women like us but it’s not there yet and I’m really not holding out any hope that it will be within my life time. Even if it does happen in my lifetime I don’t want to spend my life waiting for something that is unlikely to ever happen for me. Focusing on how ultimately being a mom itself is my dream has helped me cope. Because that is something I can work towards today.

I really strongly empathize with this pain though. I’ve cried myself to sleep over it many times. I hope you’re able to find what helps make it easier for you.

There are positives and negatives to DIY. This website has good info. It has never been more feasible to access DIY and a lot of good resources and groups exist to help you figure it out.

Make sure to focus on suppliers that are reputable and follow safe injection practices. There are websites around that keep track of suppliers and availability. They really only take payment in crypto, but most suppliers have guides on getting the crypto and paying them.

If we are talking like. Any conceivable body modification is possible, then I’d like to be able to conceive my own children and undo the effects of testosterone on my vocal chords. Ive grown pretty attached to my body after getting bottom surgery 2 years ago. There’s not a lot else I’d like to change about it. I’m tall and my hands and feet are sorta big. My shoulders are sorta wide. But I dont mind that stuff as much. I think I’m pretty even with those things.

So I guess I’d mostly have the same body I already do have. But I wouldn’t turn down fancy nanobots that could like. Prevent cancer and stuff. I think that’d be pretty sweet. Getting breast cancer is a very real fear of mine, so the idea of a world where that doesnt exist anymore is pretty significant to me.