Why Shadowrun 1st edition? It’s not the game at its best. Burst fire and full auto require rolling dice for every single bullet! (And I say this as someone that was introduced to RPGs through Shadowrun 1st edition, and even has a Shadowrun tattoo)

My D&D group started off with one token girl. Then he transitioned. So I became the token girl.

When I was 19/20 (decades ago) I moved to the city to go to University. One of my housemates came out as trans many years later, and a few years before me, but while we were in the house, both of us were closeted and in denial.

He and I used to sit on the front deck of the house, playing cards and talking in to the night. I often wonder what would have happened in both of our lives if at any point, we had have got to talking about gender, and felt comfortable coming out to each other (and ourselves) way back then.

But, we didn’t have that conversation then… We both still found our way though. You will too :)

Piefed and lemmy are both group actor based activitypub platforms, and Piefed is explicitly designed to be compatible with lemmy, simply because lemmy has the traction/momentum in the activitypub niche they both exist in.

The difference isn’t protocol based, it’s just a piefed design decision and one that could easily be changed if a dev gets the chance to put some time in to it.

See if there’s a front runners group in your area. They’re an international queer running group.

Lemmy doesn’t log IP addresses, and lbz doesn’t require email addresses to register (though that can make resetting passwords challenging). If you’re on lbz and you’ve registered with an email address, you’re free to remove it if you have any concerns!

when I’m feeling sad, I find myself going on r/terf_trans_alliance, and then I feel worse.

That sub exists specifically to prey on folk like you. Folk that are struggling with internalised transphobia and self worth issues.

Transphobes (and bigots in general) actively seek people they can demonstrate their bigotry against. It’s performative, to improve their in group cohesion, and it addresses their own self worth issues and let’s them feel empowered.

That sub exists purely to attract people for them to prey on.

They’re preying on you, because hurting you and folk like you brings them joy.

You stop going, because even though dealing with your own self image can be a long battle, it’s a battle you can navigate without empowering them.

I just got my NSW gender marker updated because of this legislation change! I had GRS years ago, but even then, it was simply too onerous to change your gender marker on your NSW birth certificate, so I never bothered, given that I was able to update my passport and everything else.

My birth cert remained the one thing left, and it’s finally done too now that it’s not a gatekeeping nightmare!

Before I accepted myself, I used to dream of this sort of post singularity future.

But now… Being in the human body I was born with caused crippling dysphoria until I was able to do something about it. So now, I wonder, what most of those bodies just end up being uncomfortable and triggering dysphoria again?

Obviously, there would be some choices that wouldn’t, but I have to wonder, if the further away I got from the “base model”, the more dysphoria might come back to say hi

I’ve got dark hair and white skin, and it took about a dozen or so treatments, and I’d say it got rid of 99.9% of my hair permanently. However, experience tells me most people don’t get that level of effectiveness.

Literally wishing that I was trans so that I could access bottom surgery

What type of surgery? Are you travelling to another country?

Honestly, it depends on the doctor. My original doctor had been doing trans healthcare for decades, and she had it down to an art. She’d put them implant in my abdomen, I’d get a single stitch, and had to avoid strenuous activity for a couple of days, but it was otherwise it was minimal impact.

I asked her to put one in my butt cheek once. She’d never done that before, and it showed. It was a more troubled implant, and took me longer to recover from, and made sitting uncomfortable for a few days.

And my current GP who doesn’t have quite the same experience as the first, tends to leave a bruise when he does the implant, but it otherwise heals the same as always. A single stitch, and a couple of days without strenuous activity.

About $160 AUD for the pellet. Plus whatever a long appointment with the GP costs.

Oh. Well, in that case, FYI, I get 100mg pellets and they last about 12 months

I’m on implants too. Love them precisely for that reason. Not having to think about HRT is nice

And there’s Nik Dimopoulos, the gay guy that lived next to a queer bookshop. Police broke in to his apartment, failed to identify themselves and then fractured his arm so bad that bone in his upper arm was broken in to multiple pieces. And he wasn’t the guy they were looking for…

The first time it happened to me, was 5 or 6 years ago now, before the climate turned as hostile as it is now. I work for a large organisation, and the people I work with all know I’m trans because I’m open about it, but there are many folk who I don’t work directly with, who didn’t know about my transition, because despite being open about being trans, we simply don’t encounter each other often.

In any case, I just made it clear that I remembered him, and mentioned the project we had worked together on a few years before the encounter. Told him that I was still working in the same area with the same folks. I could see him trying to work out who I was. I didn’t lie, but I didn’t out myself. I just let him struggle to remember me.

I have no idea if he ever did work it out, because I haven’t encountered him again since.

Because transphobes