Ive been thinking about it fir a while, but i think i really want it. It feels strange still being so early on. Ive inly started hrt 8 months ago, but i really want it. And i want ffs. Its like the floodgates broke open and i want as much as i can get.

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    I got bottom surgery 11 months after starting hrt, and that required me to start the paperwork process 4 or so months in to things. If you need it you need it. There’s no such thing as too soon.

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    I didn’t think I wanted it before I started transition. It took a few months for it to fully sink it that it was a thing I could do and that it would make me happier. I also maybe felt a bit like I didn’t deserve it. I wasn’t able to get it for a long time due to medical gatekeeping, but I’m very happy I was eventually able to get it nonetheless.

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      Oh hey, yours was fairly recent; I remember commenting on your posts! How goes/went recovery? Whoops, wrong username, my bad. Mistook you for someone else who made some posts around june-ish

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      I am also struggling with feeling like I deserve it. I still can’t connect with whether it would make me happier per se, but having a scrotum is pretty gross - so I guess I feel more dysphoria as a motivation than gender euphoria.

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    You seem to think that it’s only okay to start wanting bottom surgery years after transitioning but I don’t see why that should be the case. Knowing I most likely want to get bottom surgery even though I’m somewhat scared of it actually helped me get over my doubts and start transitioning in the first place.

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      Kinda same. I’ve been on HRT for a while. Like… 5 years a while >^<

      I’ve wanted bottom surgery for years now, but get very anxious when I start picking up the phone to do it. It can also just be hard in the mental sense to push yourself to get something you need, like going to the dentist or whatever. You know you need it, but one reason or another makes it more difficult than it really should be.

      I’m happy that I don’t mind it too much still being there, but I did think a lot a few days ago how everything would be just be better if it was gone. Hell, if I even got an orchiectomy it would be an improvement. But y’know… Bills, insurance doesn’t cover it, having to spend everyday of my life having to help my family out. Just never ever had enough time nor money to really try and work on myself more than just the hormones (⁠╥⁠﹏⁠╥⁠)

      Anyways, I wish chu luck on chur journey! ° Thanks for taking your time to read. 🫂❤️

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        It can also just be hard in the mental sense to push yourself to get something you need, like going to the dentist or whatever.

        Wow you really didn’t need to call me out like that :P I’ve just started HRT after like 10 years of suppressing my feelings and I’m currently also putting off getting my wisdom teeth pulled. But thanks and good luck to you too!

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      Yeah that was how i was feeling but others have done it early on. I think part of it was wanting to be sure myself.

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    That’s a common experience. Fortunately some of the longer wait time elements of bottom surgery like hair removal can start asap

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      In fact, some stuff like hair removal is actually better to start early and do long term. Cuz there’s always the chance that rapid treatments don’t get everything, but you won’t know right away until things have time to heal and start growing again. So if you do it too quickly, it’s possible that you miss follicles that can still grow hair. And when discussing bottom surgery, missed follicles are the stuff of nightmares. So start the hair removal early, let it have time to heal, and give yourself time to identify any missed follicles and return for further treatment.

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    My brain is unconvinced that medical science has advanced far enough in the bottom surgery field for me to be comfortable with it. Born too early for the lab grown body parts.

    And also I’m going to be broke getting top surgery anyways.

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      Hah i know what you mean. Yeah and the studies theyve done indicate a very high satisfaction rate, which is very nice !

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    I’ve progressively come to the realisation that I do indeed want GRS, I always wanted FFS and GRS felt less important, but as time goes on I realise that, I’m never going to have a fullfilling sex life with my current equipment…