Hello my dears :3
So rn I’m going by Jamie and there’s a lot I really like about this name. Its meaning works well (she, who supplants), it’s the name of my favorite skater when I was a kid, it does have a nice ring to it.
But when I chose it to play with, I didn’t know where my journey would lead to. Now that I do I’m just not sure I like the ambiguity.
That being said, I wonder, how did you all pick your new names? Does it have a special meaning to you? Anything in particular that made you go like “Yes, that’s it, that’s me!”?
i entertain this idea, too. in your expierience, did people adapt well? i am worrying that they will just use my name and ‘forget’ that things are different now. that they can more easily keep up the he/him stuff?
my fem version would be pronounced basically the same (a bit depending on the speakers main language) so i fear my great legal coming out would slip below a lot of people’s radars …
I think I changed my presentation enough for people to adapt well enough. Everyone in my life except for my family is very supportive and leftist though, so I think I had it pretty easy. My dad took some time to adapt but now (2 years after coming out to him) he’s doing pretty well. My mom still misgenders me every time we see each other but I don’t think it would be any different with a different name. I would wager she’d not even use it most of the time tbh.
I had some anxiety about strangers not knowing how to gender me when I introduce myself with my nickname. And that actually did happen a bit but I think by now I’m far enough along with the physical changes that I’m read female pretty consistently by new people. In that transition period I just told the friends I was with to aggressively she/her me so others get the message lol. And when I sign up for anything official it’s obvious because my full name is 100% fem. Also, I think it’s pretty cool to have a gender neutral name because I’m not 100% woman either, I think.