I have a friend who lives on the West coast of the US who refers to me as “buddy” a lot, and I don’t mention it, but it gives me the ick (she knew me pre-transition). I think she just uses it like a gender-neutral word for anyone (the way “dude” and “bro” ca be used sometimes), but I’m triggered, lol 😅
In public / with people who never knew me before transition, people will often refer to me and whoever I’m with (they’re usually women) as “ladies” (ironically my sister-in-law hates how often she is called “ladies” when she’s around me, lol).
On the phone or individually people often refer to me as “dear”. In the South, I got a lot more “sweetie”, “honey”, and even “sweet girl” and “good girl”.
What have your experiences been like (before, during, and after transition)?
Girl, bitch, dude (not my fave, but I can deal).
One friend answers my calls, “What’s up bitch, getting that pussy pounded?” in reference to Adam Sackler from Girls, lmao.
lol, Adam is such a crazy character 🙃
I had a harder time dealing with “dude” early in transition, but since I no longer look like a dude, I tend to be aware that it’s not intended to misgender me, etc.
I don’t think I’ve been called bitch, but my partner and I both call one another “girl” for emphasis 😅