• ChilledPeppers@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    2·
    12 hours ago

    I am in that exact situation, but its so hard to bite the bullet, even more when I cant really talk to anyone about it. Sad times.

    • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      4·
      12 hours ago

      Sure, but you can always just start HRT right now. That’s really the most important thing in my mind.

      Social transition can happen later, but you can’t go back and start HRT earlier. Starting estrogen can also give you important information and can be very clarifying.

      I wish HRT were viewed more as an early intervention and diagnostic tool than the “extreme” step that I think we all start off believing it is. You can even take it for several months without long-term effects.

      Once I started estrogen it was clear to me, all the questioning and denial I had about trans was irrelevant because I was going to be taking estrogen no matter what from that point on - it radically changed my mood and mental health for the better (I should clarify I was doing monotherapy injections - basically enough estrogen to suppress testosterone production).

      Anyway, don’t wait to start living - repression is never a good idea.

      • ChilledPeppers@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        2·
        4 hours ago

        Yup, its just that I have a therapist, a pretty accepting family and I still don’t feel safe talking to anyone. It really makes you feel quite lonely…

        I do plan on starting HRT this or next month, but I will be moving countries in three or four months, so thats also a complication.

        Anyway, I will do what I can. Thank you for the thoughtful awnser <3.

        • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          1·
          4 hours ago

          there are usually local LGBT+ and trans support groups you can go to - the trans support groups are usually full of early transitioners and people whose egg just cracked, so you might find some similar people there, or at least people going through similar hurdles

          you might also look for a therapist who is gender-informed and works with trans patients on gender dysphoria - that might make it easier for you to feel safe

          but ultimately, you just can’t really expect to feel fully safe, part of transition is that extreme vulnerability and putting one foot in front of the other towards transition even though it feels like you’re going to die if you do

          and yeah, moving might complicate the situation, but it’s just a temporary setback and hopefully you will find a way to access HRT in the new country

          Good luck with your struggles - just know you aren’t alone. Feel free to DM me anytime 🫶