• puppycat (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    1·
    18 minutes ago

    thank u for sharing, ur journey is genuinely inspiring to me

    I hope HRT makes me as pretty as you one day🥺

  • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.worldEnglish
    17·
    10 hours ago

    by now I’ve seen countless transition pictures, and every one of them seems like magic.

    like y’all just showing a picture of a brother and sister and expecting expecting me to believe they are the same person. my brain is unable to believe it.

    HRT, is the closest we have to magic potions.

  • Shirow@lemmy.zipEnglish
    17·
    11 hours ago

    Wish I knew sooner to but better late than never ☺️

    Awesome change though, in almost 2 months in.

    • RachelRodent@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
      9·
      11 hours ago

      congrats on the two months! andd thanks. Also stay strong and patient early progress can be so slow unless you have blessed genetics just know there is light in the end of the tunnel.

  • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    23·
    12 hours ago

    such great progress, congrats!!

    EDIT: just wanted to point out that you’ve done yourself a huge favor by starting so young, well done 💖

    • RachelRodent@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
      13·
      11 hours ago

      yayy thanks. I mean I didn’t start that young only when it was viable at 18 aka a year before moving out cause that is the amount of time I would be able to hide

      • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
        18·
        10 hours ago

        “I didn’t start that young only when it was viable at 18”

        Girl, you’re still little more than a baby.

      • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        12·
        11 hours ago

        When I was your age I was starting to buy skirts and “cross-dress” privately (at home) more, that’s when I chose my name and started experimenting with makeup. Then I repressed for more than a decade, so … yeah, don’t do what I did.

        I know it probably feels too late to you, but 18 is a much better time than you realize - the body continues to androgenize significantly. I couldn’t grow a beard until my mid 20s, my voice significantly changed in my 20s - the changes are huge.

        So even starting at 18 you’ve saved yourself significant distress and suffering that waiting longer would have caused. ❤️

        • ChilledPeppers@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          2·
          7 hours ago

          I am in that exact situation, but its so hard to bite the bullet, even more when I cant really talk to anyone about it. Sad times.

          • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            2·
            6 hours ago

            Sure, but you can always just start HRT right now. That’s really the most important thing in my mind.

            Social transition can happen later, but you can’t go back and start HRT earlier. Starting estrogen can also give you important information and can be very clarifying.

            I wish HRT were viewed more as an early intervention and diagnostic tool than the “extreme” step that I think we all start off believing it is. You can even take it for several months without long-term effects.

            Once I started estrogen it was clear to me, all the questioning and denial I had about trans was irrelevant because I was going to be taking estrogen no matter what from that point on - it radically changed my mood and mental health for the better (I should clarify I was doing monotherapy injections - basically enough estrogen to suppress testosterone production).

            Anyway, don’t wait to start living - repression is never a good idea.

        • RachelRodent@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPEnglish
          9·
          11 hours ago

          That iss fair. Hey I am glad you found yourself eventually. I hold the belief that no matter the starting age or genetics transition can lead to happiness for anyone. Time and time again I have seen older trans women who started much later than I glowing so what I mean to say is that first it is never too late (no matter how painful and slow progress is) and that I am proud of you that you eventually started and took steps to control of your gender expression too ❤️

          • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            7·
            11 hours ago

            oh yes, fully agree - it’s never too late to start, even if it’s pretty much always better to start earlier 😅

            for me anyway that was true (I don’t want to assume too much about others, but it does seem like it’s true for most of us) - I didn’t think I would ever pass and I thought I was signing up for being visibly trans the rest of my life.

            In particular what I think is worth it is the hormones - I really didn’t understand how significantly the wrong hormones can impact mood and mental health.

            So from that perspective I tend to think we need to be on the right hormones regardless of what age we are - just to be healthy and happy. Obviously it’s hard to live as a visibly trans person, but you just never know how it’s going to go (I was completely wrong, for example).

            Life is so much better than I ever understood it could be - and I was so mistaken about gender, lol. My whole life I thought it was something trivial, that gender was just social and gender expression was about what clothes I wore or how I was treated socially - I didn’t understand gender has such strong biological components and could be a major medical issue with serious consequences for mental health (caused by the hormones and biology, not from something like not being able to wear the clothes you want).

            Anyway, I just wish I had learned some things earlier, and it makes my heart full when I see younger folks figuring it out and living better lives 🥰