Hey everyone, I’m new to all of this and I’m still trying to figure things out. Maybe a year or so ago my egg cracked and I’ve been trying to figure out what to do about it. I’ve got a therapist in talking to and she’s great. My wife has been struggling a bit with a lot of the stuff I’m going through but is trying to be supportive. I also want to take her comfort into account with anything I do.
My therapist talked about maybe making a list of clothes that might lean more to either extreme end of the gender spectrum and maybe talking to my wife about how comfortable she is with me trying those things, but I don’t really even know where to start on that list. I feel like I have no idea what kinda stuff to wear. Do any of you have any suggestions?
Thrift stores are great for this. Maybe go shopping with wifey? When you’re looking through the clothes take some risks with what you try on! You don’t have to buy anything but this way you can start trying to figure out your size according to women’s fashion. I’ve had more time to figure this out and I still have a hard time finding clothes I really like or feel good. Remember also that gender identity is fluid and you don’t need to look ‘girly’ to be a woman. Find your comfort level that suits you now and you can always experiment later when something speaks to you.
PS. Shopping can be EXHAUSTING if you’re out of your element and sometimes stores will have zero options. Keep this in mind and try either another store or another day. All the best!!
plus: get a good idea of what size you need. maybe ask a person in the shop. esp. when thrifting, there is often just one size and naturally you try it anyqay. trying on too small sizes is the biggest source of dysphoria for me while shopping. i’m glad i somewhat know what my size is now.
do. not. wear. too. small. sizes.
it will make you uncomfortable in one way or the other.