I myself experience sexual attraction to both masculine and feminine people, leaning strongly toward feminine, but I have a hard time imagining myself being with a binary man. It feels a bit awkward to identify as a bi woman sometimes because my sexual attraction for men just kind of exists, yet I don’t feel entirely comfortable identifying as a lesbian for the same reason. I just learned about the bi-lesbian flag/identity and it feels more right to me because I don’t want to erase by bisexuality, even if I never choose to act on my sexual attraction to men. Curious what others think.

  • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    1 day ago

    lol, I would have no clue what hetero- or homo-flexible would mean, but TIL - thanks 😅

    I feel like labels make sense to point someone in a general direction. If I’m interested enough in them that specificity is worthwhile, I’ll explain myself, or like if their specific sexuality is relevant to a conversation, I’m down to learn more, but otherwise I just do not have it in me to memorize 60 different flags for niche levels of attraction. Get me in the ballpark and it’s probably close enough.

    +1 for this - I’m usually using the label to give someone a quick gist of my sexuality

    my sexuality doesn’t need to be hyper-specific, but I completely support exploring sexuality and making our language more rich

    I’ve used labels in the past like pansexual and it mostly added confusion rather than clarified anything, esp. once its meaning started to overlap with different and contradicting things, and also once I really introspected enough I realized I’m not really pansexual. Maybe it’s good to have a label like pansexual, maybe it’s good that it generates interesting conversations. But mostly I just didn’t find it useful, so now I have reverted to saying I’m bi, a lesbian, or usually just not disclosing my sexuality.