so yeah. i established a persona that wears whatever ages ago. the only relevant steps in my coming out (in my city) are therefore name and pronouns. it is horrific. i don’t want to talk abt myself or be the topic of any discussion. i like the anonymity here. but these people know me.
i just turned off notifications and spammed a few group chats.
… guess i’ll burn my phone.
update: i’ll survive. i had a good, long and agitated walking-around-in-the-flat-while-crying, then had a peak into the messages. had 2 really cool chats with ppl i hadn’t talked to for a long while. the rest is a lot of emoji noise. which is nice, but i don’t know what to do with that. it’s the nice ones.
The first few hours will be agony because of basically every thought rushing through your head but it will feel so liberating afterwards.
ok, no one thinks i am dumb for realising so late. (take that anxiety. you were wrong.)
one friend kept awkwardly quiet. that might be a problem? usually he lives in his phone. we’ll see.
Your friends will have to process this as well, give them time :).
And it’s never too late to realise that. I don’t know how old you are but I came out like 1 month before my 31st birthday.
we are good. he probably just was with his new semi-regular grinder hook-up. ;)
Happy to hear that :)
Lol I had the exact same fear. Proud of you for telling everyone.