That is, wife (43) and daughter (12). Told them I was re-evaluating myself and who I wanted to be, and that I wanted to try being “cuter” (didn’t quite have the courage to go further), and that perhaps men’s clothing didn’t suit me.
The wife was mostly “yeah, right” – seemed happy that I was trying to improve myself but seems to think it’s just a phase (maybe it is? idk).
But my daughter was right on board! Came up with a load of outfit and makeup suggestions, and proposed going to an anime convention together, dressed up. I asked her if she’d think it was weird for me to go about dressed as a gothic lolita, and the response was “no, I think it’d be cute.”
So next step is maybe cute anime girl cosplay at home, with an ally!
I’m literally shaking with … excitement? fear? relief? I have no idea. Ohgodohgodohgod what am I doing…
No, you’re right - a large part of my recent panic has been “what if this destroys my family”, and I know that’s still on the cards. I thought about how I’d have reacted in the past if she’d come out as a trans man (probably very badly, although I’d be fine with it now), but eh, we’ve had our crises in the past (more than a few caused by my unhappiness) and pulled through. Que sera sera, and I’m cool with that.