Hey I’m new here!! :3

For context, I’m pre-HRT but have appointments coming up.

I’m curious. What do you do when you get pangs of denial? I have written dowm a list of logical reasons of why I’m a tgirl. But that doesn’t change the fact that sometimes I feel like I’m in denial of something I logically know myself to be.

Thanks, have a nice day!!

  • RedSeries (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    3 days ago

    That can be rough, and I’ve seen a lot of trans folks express similar doubts. 🫂

    First: HRT is completely reversible in the short term (some effects are permanent, but not usually until months in and even then they need time to grow/change). Remind yourself you can stop if you find it isn’t helping you. Stopping if your feelings turn out to be true here is simply just that… stopping. You’ll have lots of opportunities to figure out if you like the changes or not.

    Second: I’ve had someone tell me, “if you do it when you’re alone, you’re not doing it for attention”. That was in response to similar feelings you’re expressing. I ride that question out every time I ask myself if I was right to transition. I’ve consistently found that I both do this while I’m alone and that I feel less and less unsure as time has gone on.

    Try reminding yourself of that. Feeling doubt is feeling doubt, but does that doubt actually make you want to stop? Do you do it when you’re alone? Is it for you or someone else?

    We’ve spent our lives hiding our real selves. It can feel really scary to finally be this vulnerable and it can be very appealing to hide again. I’m happy you’re giving yourself a chance.