For me, saying that I transitioned “when I was meant to” just doesn’t land right, because I know it’s not when I was meant to. Making me wait all that time wasn’t the right thing, it wasn’t what was “meant” to be.
From my perspective, in an ideal world, “yesterday” was the time to transition. But the world isn’t ideal, and it made that impossible, so “today” is what I was able to achieve despite the world trying to get in the way! (though “today” was 9 years ago for me)
I totally understand where you are coming from. I think we are at different points of our journey and just have a different perspective on it. A few years ago I probably felt a lot more like you do now.
For me that meant being in constant conflict with my own body though and feeling like if I had just transitioned earlier I could have accepted myself. And I think that I always thought that accepting my body was always just going to work by me transitioning and getting a completely different body. Nowadays I’m much more OK with me not changing my body but trying to accept it with its flaws and its ambiguity.
I wish that I had the courage to follow up my cross dressing as a 13 year old. Dare to ask why it feels so good to wear a bra. But instead I felt shame and pushed it away. Now I am past 30 and at least find comfort in the fact that it’s not too late and that there is still time.
So I guess I am saying that I feel your point of view more than the meme. Though I also think the meme is trying to say that if you questioned for a long time that it is okay and that you needed that time. Then again it is a meme and they often don’t want to say anything but make a silly joke.
For me, saying that I transitioned “when I was meant to” just doesn’t land right, because I know it’s not when I was meant to. Making me wait all that time wasn’t the right thing, it wasn’t what was “meant” to be.
From my perspective, in an ideal world, “yesterday” was the time to transition. But the world isn’t ideal, and it made that impossible, so “today” is what I was able to achieve despite the world trying to get in the way! (though “today” was 9 years ago for me)
I totally understand where you are coming from. I think we are at different points of our journey and just have a different perspective on it. A few years ago I probably felt a lot more like you do now.
For me that meant being in constant conflict with my own body though and feeling like if I had just transitioned earlier I could have accepted myself. And I think that I always thought that accepting my body was always just going to work by me transitioning and getting a completely different body. Nowadays I’m much more OK with me not changing my body but trying to accept it with its flaws and its ambiguity.
I wish that I had the courage to follow up my cross dressing as a 13 year old. Dare to ask why it feels so good to wear a bra. But instead I felt shame and pushed it away. Now I am past 30 and at least find comfort in the fact that it’s not too late and that there is still time.
So I guess I am saying that I feel your point of view more than the meme. Though I also think the meme is trying to say that if you questioned for a long time that it is okay and that you needed that time. Then again it is a meme and they often don’t want to say anything but make a silly joke.