Any recommendations? :)

https://transfemscience.org/ for anyone who doesn’t know it

Aww, thanks for posting this!!

That’s a beautiful dress that fits you really well. I haven’t dared to put on any dresses for years and now they don’t fit me anymore. Seeing you makes me wanna get and wear a dress, too :)

Well, that’s probably only true for some people and only for a certain period after coming out to yourself. Sure, it was euphoric feeling seen in my gender identity when I faced misogyny for the first few times. But once I felt more at home in my gender identity, it wasn’t pleasant anymore.

I actually know plenty of cis straight women who are repeatedly seeking out men that treat them awfully because they think they don’t deserve anything else. I would so far as to say that straight culture is based on misogyny.

Less so with friends, because most of them are queer and/or trans themselves. But sometimes I have that same thought regarding all the other people I know, like my family, flatmates, or just strangers…

I feel like these are all things that I also go through as a (probably mostly???) binary trans person. I don’t really know who I want to be yet and have to discover this, too. I think it is always as much about finding yourself as it is about finding the right gender and gender expression.

On days when I feel confident in myself, I also enjoy this very specific mood of nonconforming and messing with people’s perception of gender :)

Would be great if you wanted to post here!!

Non-binary and trans are not separate concepts though. I identify being trans, but that doesn’t mean I have to be super binary. And the struggles my non-binary friends face are also mostly the same. It is certainly harder to use they/them, neopronouns or no pronouns. But I can still relate with that struggle very much and support wherever I can.

But I agree that it is hard to relate to most trans memes posted here. They are often very binary and rooted in gender stereotypes. But I think this isn’t a you-problem and more of a problem of this specific lemmy community and various trans spaces online. As a trans person, I’d wish there would be more nuanced and relatable takes, not so much idealization of cat girls and anime…

Regarding the OP, I wouldn’t be interacting with strangers like this because I’m socially too anxious.

Hm, to me this feels like it’s about patriarchal power and that it is therefore inherently violent language.

This is not true. It isn’t any prove that people that weigh more than the “healthy” range are less healthy. That is just more stigma against fat people. Obesity as a concept is deeply intervowen with stigma.

I can recommend the podcast “Maintenance Phase”, where the hosts tackle these misconceptions and the stigma with deep dives into the actual research. Most of the debate about health is just bullshit and more about normativity and power than it is about health.

“Overweight” is a fat-shaming term in itself and it is loaded with social stigma and devaluation…

Sure, although in most trans women not as much that C cups would be seen as small.

Anyways, that’s not what the other person was talking about. They used specifically “overweight” as a term to devaluate someone.

What has their weight to do with it? Really no reason to fat-shame! :(

YES!! This has been my experience exactly!

Not sure if I understand you correctly. You mean this is the terfs’ essentialism shining through, which sees “women” as inherently inferior to “men”? It is pretty weird that those “radical” ““feminists”” have such a patriarchal view on gender and sex.

I really don’t like that apparently “biological women” is being adopted to mean “cis women”. I’m also biologically a woman, at least in part. My main sex hormone is estrogen and my testosterone is so low you cannot even measure it. So it would plainly be false to call me a “biological man”. Just call me a trans woman and those that you call “biological women” cis women. Otherwise this feels like we are adopting terf terminology :(

That’s a whole other debate though. I understand this post to be about trying to focus also on the positive side of being trans (the euphoria) instead of constantly being confronted with the negatives (dysphoria).

Just let people decide for themselves what they want to do. Why do you worry about anyone transitioning out of euphoria alone? Do you think that is actually a realistic possibility for a larger portion of trans people to do? I feel like there has been a much narrower view on transitioning 15 years ago. But nowadays you hear most trans people speak about transitioning at their own pace and do what feels right for themselves. So I don’t think your argument is all that meaningful.

I cannot decide if you’re speaking in good faith or are one of those people that use their “worry” to discourage people from transitioning. Because that’s a really common talking point and is fundamentally hostile against trans people.

I’m jealous :/ I get misgendered by strangers all the time although I’ve started transitioning over 5 years ago :'(

Why would you bring up binary gender with fixed binary genitalia in a post about something being genderless? Clothing is really arbitrarily gendered anyways, so of course it doesn’t make much sense who is supposed to wear something and who not…

Yes, that’s what I’ve been using for many years as well :)

Hm, I’ve been shaving wet for ever and have been on E for ~5 years. No cuts unless I’m really not paying attention. It is a skill you can learn :)