I myself experience sexual attraction to both masculine and feminine people, leaning strongly toward feminine, but I have a hard time imagining myself being with a binary man. It feels a bit awkward to identify as a bi woman sometimes because my sexual attraction for men just kind of exists, yet I don’t feel entirely comfortable identifying as a lesbian for the same reason. I just learned about the bi-lesbian flag/identity and it feels more right to me because I don’t want to erase by bisexuality, even if I never choose to act on my sexual attraction to men. Curious what others think.
I’m in a similar camp. My attraction is almost exclusively fem leaning in practice. Even tho it’s actually about understanding and safety for me, so some men do occasionally fall under that umbrella. Tho it’s true that these men are also usually queer in some way and super kind and soft :P
I’m quite comfortable using sapphic for my self, especially since when it comes to romance, the area of attraction tightens further once emotional resonance becomes more than just a vague preference.