I’ve been closeted for like 30 years. How tf do I let it out? I’m ready to come out, tell people, finally go live my life, but all I know is the mask. Who is this scared little girl that’s hiding in here? How do I go be myself when I don’t know who that is? I feel naked and exposed without my masc.
Go experiment? I’m still in that “man in a dress” stage, not sure if I’m going to be able to get HRT, so even looking at myself in the mirror is horrible. I’m trying to lose weight and I’m doing the laser hair removal thing, and those feel great, but
I feel like I missed my life, missed learning how to girl, and now I’m expected to woman? Can I please get some girlhood real quick so I can figure out how to woman? I want to go through the emo phase and the punk phase and maybe dabble in goth, I want to be cringe, I want to have a sleepover with the girls and do each other’s hair and makeup so we can practice.
There’s so many things that are gendered. I wore my belt "backward"s today, because I was always taught the “correct” boys way to do it. I feel like I’m drowning in the shallow end of the gender pool.
If I’m going to do makeup I’m going to have to look at myself in the mirror. If I’m going to do my hair I’m going to have to do something about the balding. If I’m going to change my wardrobe, do I do that now or wait until I lose these 10 kilos?
I pulled the cork and… I guess I thought I was gonna get a genie wish and wake up the next day as a girl. Instead I have to transition, and probably without any HRT. I guess this is the hard part.
Sorry for the ramble, even verbalizing these thoughts, this sentence, is hard. I’m so practiced at keeping it all in that even though it’s happening, I don’t know how to let it all out.
You can totally learn how to girl at 30+ and if you want you can go through the emo and punk phase at 30+ too.
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, however the second best time is today.
Like you said, you are going to feel ‘naked and exposed’ without your masc at first, but give it a little while and that feeling will go away. When I first wore a dress in public I felt that way too. I thought everyone would be staring at me and ostracizing me, but not a single person did that. I know it’s really scary at first, especially if you are all on your own, but just take baby steps and you’ll get there eventually!