I’ve gone my whole life (I’m 35) NOT thinking I was trans but now I do, wtf am I supposed to do with this? How do I find out for sure? Am I allowed to be a trans lesbian because I’m not attracted to men? Can I even come out, when it will ruin my whole life? I’m jealous of the youth, being old sucks.

  • those_who_wonder@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
    10·
    12 days ago

    at your age, it’ll be much easier to come out if you have to.

    Probably won’t though on account of the whole “being a coward” thing lmfao

    • ExtremeDullard@piefed.socialEnglish
      16·
      12 days ago

      Don’t beat yourself up. I don’t think coming out is ever easy. But if you have to, it’s much harder if you’re a minor and/or not mature and settled in life with nothing to prove to anybody.

    • Victoria@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      10·
      12 days ago

      You don’t have to come out to everyone at once. I started out with my closest friends 4 years ago, went on with my parents a year later, extended family another year later, and my coworkers just this week. Take your time, you can do this.

    • Ziglin (it/they)@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      10 days ago

      Another trick is to crossdrews (maybe start off around accepting people) and just see how it feels and if you keep going and feel better that way, you are probably trans and your friends will probably catch on without you having to explain yourself. That’s what I did, I didn’t even come out to most of them directly, I just eventually changed my pronouns on name tags and told my closer friends first.