Hi y’all! Do you have any advice on how to start building a wardrobe of femme clothing?

I’m starting to feel braver and want to start wearing girl clothes out in public more. The problem is 1) I have next to no girl clothes, just the few affirming things I wear around the house, and 2) I am overwhelmed by the amount of options I have and don’t know where to start.

Historically, I’ve dressed more workwear (flannel, denim, leather) in the winter, and more normcore (solid color tees and chino shorts) in the summer.

I’m not sure how to translate those into feminine clothes, if I even want to. I really more so want to take the opportunity to find a more expressive style (I always disliked how few options men are given when it comes to fashion), but I still feel like I need a few kind of “core” outfits that I can easily mix and match, like a capsule wardrobe.

I also expect there to be an awkward phase as my body changes and I start to figure out my style, but I’d prefer to not make any glaring faux pas either.

Any advice is greatly appreciated 😊

  • happy_wheels@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I am on the same journey! Let me share my tips.

    1. Thrifting / second-hand clothes are a great starting point. It allows you to dip your toes into femme clothes shopping without blowing a hole in your budget.

    2. Shop with a close friend. I personally have a cis female helping me out when I shop in person for femme clothes. Getting real-time feedback helps soooo much!

    3. Be cautious about size options from online retailers. A Large shirt from company X may be different than a Large shirt from company Z. This is a known “feature” of femme clothing.

    Dont worry too much about a specific style. Find clothes that resonate and make you happy and confident.

    • Amy@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
      4·
      1 month ago

      Oh yes, that’s a very good point. “Size” is a concept you should forget :3 I’m an M in one brand and 3L in another. (Particularly as a transfem my proportions are quite far off average)

      • happy_wheels@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        3·
        1 month ago

        Yup! Growing up with two cis females, they would complain about sizing issues sooooo much. I forgot, and I ran into this personally when i bought a handful of femme shirts online, all xl. One was a med, one was Large, other was XL. Very frustrating.

    • compostgoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      3·
      1 month ago

      Thanks for the tips! It sounds like a thrifting day is in store for me soon :)

      Are there any particular styles I should try to avoid? I guess I’m just worried about giving away that I don’t have a clue what I’m doing lol

      • happy_wheels@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        3·
        1 month ago

        I have no clue what i am doing either, i go with the flow. Lately i habe been picking out tops that make me feel confident and accentuate my figure. I like to be colourful too, greens and oranges galore!