It finally happened. I lost so much weight that my tungsten-carbide wedding band doesn’t fit anymore. It’s definitely a ‘masculine’ design and felt like a good idea at the time. But since that material can’t be resized and all the add-on sizing options are still too big, I’m at a loss for what to do. My spouse and I are still absolutely happily married and intend to remain that way. If anything, I think we’ve grown closer since I came out! I don’t want to simply discard something that means so much to us both. I was hoping to hold out on buying a new one until my transition got to a point to renew our vows with my new name (and in a gorgeous dress!) but I’m curious if anyone else has been through this before? I was considering a necklace to hold onto it until then. I was about to type that I didn’t want others to get the wrong impression about us (me with no ring, my spouse with the engagement ring and the band) out together but then I realized we’re likely going to get awkward looks for a while anyway.

So, what do others think? What have you done if you’ve reached this point? Am I overthinking this?

  • Telorand@reddthat.com
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    3 days ago

    I keep an old ring, that doesn’t fit, in a box. I got a silicone ring and honestly prefer it to my titanium ring. If I gain or lose weight, or get arthritis or something, the ring is a little more adaptable.

    Plus, you can get silicone in lots of colors, so I like it for the fact that you can accessorize more easily!