I second this. Stylists have a tendency to give newly out trans women feminine men’s cuts instead of women’s cuts if left to their own devices. Going in there with clear ideas and expectations means they won’t fall In to that trap.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean they won’t be friendly. What I mean is that if they haven’t dealt with a lot of trans folk, then they sometimes have trouble really understanding what it is that you need, and will fall in to their familiar defaults. And that’s where an image or a style comes in handy, because it gives them something to work towards
I would advise not doing that.
Start poking around on Pinterest or some other sites. Find a photo of what you want, show it to them and ask “can you make it look like this?”
Photo references are 100x better than verbal descriptions. And it’s wise to not say “surprise me” to a stylist you don’t know very very well.
I second this. Stylists have a tendency to give newly out trans women feminine men’s cuts instead of women’s cuts if left to their own devices. Going in there with clear ideas and expectations means they won’t fall In to that trap.
I’m going to a trans friendly place
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean they won’t be friendly. What I mean is that if they haven’t dealt with a lot of trans folk, then they sometimes have trouble really understanding what it is that you need, and will fall in to their familiar defaults. And that’s where an image or a style comes in handy, because it gives them something to work towards