can we just like stop using meta for queer stuff?

ftfy

PROTIP: to put a tiny bit of spicy in your hot chocolate. Not enough that you can taste, but just enough that you can just barely faintly feel it in the back of your throat, as it enhances the sweetness without relying on salt. I generally do like a micro-pinch or cayenne powder, since that’s the easiest and what I generally have on hand consistently.

If you can taste spicy, it’s too much.

Ex bf: you totally pass

Me: doubt, can’t tell, paranoia, depression

What’s 4chan?

we did it, team!

Some people like dudes and that’s okay!

I’m gonna go ahead and disagree with everybody else. I don’t like it. I generally don’t speak up for myself in real life, but it does bother me deeply. There’s no great solution, this is just my honest opinion that it makes me uncomfortable and I’m trying to not be this way but it does actually bother me.

Like. What do you even think this comic is trying to tell you? It’s EXACTLY like the comic, which is why it is highly upvoted.

Also, it is not gender neutral, it is more complicated than that and much more problematic. “You want to get fucked by ten dudes” is not gender neutral.

Horrible.

Whoever raised his kid is doing it right.

I straight up dated the first guy I met on grindr for about 6 months last year. Some really fantastic memories with him even though it didn’t work out. We still talk occasionally.

I miss the perfection of flash.

^ “In the Netherlands, just because gay, doesn’t mean not Nazi.”

🫂

I fear for you.

This is all great advice. My only change would be to move out of OK first. Go to ny, or, wa, or ca or something. Go to a trans friendly state in a trans friendly area. Or, fuck, even get the hell out of this country. Mexico or Canada.

Normally, I’d say you’ll be fine. But politics right now is that you need to GTFO to a safe place right now with all the money and skills and resources that you can. Take all the family that you want and are able to, too, and make it so you don’t have to look back.

Needles are horrible. The prep to get a shot going is stressful. There are serious medical risks every single time you break the skin barrier and inject stuff into yourself.

One time I did it and blood literally poured out when I pulled out the needle. Ruined a pair of pants and a shirt.

As great as transitioning is, yes, it sucks and I wish I wasn’t born this way and that there was a better way. I’ve tried patches, oral, sublingual, buccal. None of them are perfect.

Pats head good woof.

I am.,…

…NOT a dog! Nice.

Sex and gender are entirely decoupled.

They are unrelated.

Disconnected.

Not at all related.

Different.

Not the same.

Irrelevant.

Not even part of the discussion.

Non sequitur.

A la carte.

Separate.

Apples and oranges.

Cars and colors.

Cisgender means not transgender. Those are binary antonyms.

If you change your gender from what it was assigned at birth, you are transgender and therefore not cisgender.

To complicate things, if you are transgender, you were never cis.

None of this has anything to do with genitals other than that is generally one of the main inputs the doctor who assigns your gender at birth uses. It’s like being assigned white or black upon birth by a doctor, they just use their best guess and often take liberties and sometimes even make changes and those changes turn out to be wrong… They should not be making assumptions or decisions or changes unless strictly necessary, which they are often not.

So a god whose existence at birth is fluid, would be, like the rest of us, whatever they were. But, for ease of language, likely fall under they/them, depending on reference purpose, like a wiki or their own desired image or role.

You would have to ask them.

Just like everybody else.

When in doubt, just ask.

In general, though, I think most gods are above gender, as gender is a human social construct and gods are… Well, those things are dumb and don’t apply because gods usually don’t give a shit and don’t play by your silly little self imposed made up rules like who makes house and who works and who is more courageous and who proposes or whatever garbage.

Yeah, there are so many other things to do in the world to use your remaining time on. Literally billions of things. Do literally anything else because that one thing doesn’t matter for beans. Sometimes all it takes is to realize what you’re doing, take a step back, take a deep breath, think about sailing a ship through a tropical storm, or closing your eyes and imagine seeing yourself sitting there, smiling and content, and suddenly BAM you can feel your toes again.

Piggy-backing off of Ada’s excellent advice, here…

Op, do you know what a troll is? It’s a shitty monster under a bridge, that lives under a bridge, and attacks you or tries to get a toll, or payment from you when you get close or try to cross the bridge.

The analogy here is that if you find yourself feeling shitty, the last place you should go should be to go see the trolls. They’re always going to be there, and they’re always going to be shitty. You aren’t going to win, because they’re trolls, it’s what they do, it’s why they exist. The damn subreddit name is even a euphemism for a bridge, for crying out loud.

So, when I say, “don’t feed the trolls”, it means, without food, the trolls will just be quietly living under their little bridges, waiting.

Go to a park. Watch some anime. Make a casserole. Watch the clouds. Be anywhere but where the trolls are. DON’T FEED THE TROLLS.

If you don’t want to hurt, stop going to where it hurts. I know this is sometimes easier said than done, but you ARE worth more, and you don’t deserve that kind of abuse, no matter what they, or your hurt subconscious tells you. You gotta make the decision, consciously, maybe even VERBALLY (I have to do this sometimes) that you don’t want to be miserable and to try your best, consciously, to figure out what is best for you.

Invest in yourself. Invest in your future. Drink water, get as much fresh air as you can, and maybe even some sunlight (hsssssss). Music that makes you feel good is always a plus. I’ve been trying to remember to listen to music, lately. It’s too easy to forget what makes you happy. Sometimes, what makes you happy changes, and that’s okay, it just means you need to explore your feelings a little bit.

Also, trans community is generally good. I find that when I spend too much time around only cis people or anybody not woke enough, I get like this weird stress in my chest and throat from having a constant low-key panic from hiding what I’m worried about and putting on a brave face. Don’t do that. Do your best to try to find your people, if you haven’t already.

Please take care of yourself, op. And, when in doubt, consider what yourself in the future would appreciate you spending your time on. It may suck, but at least future-you might appreciate it.

I know a lot of this is cliche as hell, but all of this is advice that I’ve personally found that works and is the best I can give you publicly.