I’m afab and if the surgery was possible for turning what I have into a fully functioning dick, I would have done it by now.

Basically I’m comfortable with my perceived gender, I just wish how I see myself mentally when I think about sex, matched up to what I’ve got in my pants. I’ve felt this way since I was a young teenager too, so it’s not a phase or a fetish, it’s how I’ve wanted to present sexually for most of my life.

Does this disconnect I’m talking about just fall under the non-binary trans umbrella? Or is it a seperate thing?

Are there any other people here who feel this way?

(Phalloplasty does not appeal to me. The surgery is brutal, it doesn’t look right (to me) when it heals, it isn’t functional how I would want it to be, and it isn’t sensitive like a dick.)

    • Aksamit@slrpnk.netOP
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      1 month ago

      Oh, you are one of the women I envy! You have my ideal body plan.

      I want to ask you some questions about your orientation and how your finding it navigating social/sexual relationships and stuff, if you’d be open to that?

      Also it’s a bit off topic but I’m hella curious about how you’re balancing your hormones for both femininity and functionality. I’ve only known women who were dysphoric as hell about that area and they all said estrogen made it much less functional and therefore less of an issue for them.

      I really wish there was a term for this type of femininity that wasn’t a slur or a fetish. Trying to talk about being a woman this way is so difficult as there is so much baggage attached to this concept now by people who are not part of it and I’m worried I’m going to inadvertently come across that way if I word stuff awkwardly.