I’ll have what he’s having 😜

I’m glad you had a great time! Thanks for sharing. I think I got some vicarious euphoria reading it 😊

Thank you for posting this, because it makes me feel more connected and less alone. Your story seems to resonate with many others here too. I can tell you’re in a lot of pain and have been for a while, and hopelessness has set in to some degree. It won’t be easy to turn things around of course, or happen overnight, but I completely believe you can do it. I can tell your relationship with your son is very important to you and motivates you to want to persevere through this bad place you’re in right now. I hear womanhood-related issues as your key problems: Grindr interactions, a best friend relationship that might not be the healthiest if she doesn’t accept you for who you are (or you have conflicting feelings), and that insecurity.

As others have said, try to stop Grindr and other interactions that leave you feeling worse about yourself in the long-term. Try to find trans-friendly friends, groups, or other communities. Insecure about what - is it modifiable? You said therapy didn’t work (why not?); might gender therapy or a therapist who’s trans (or support groups) work? Antidepressants? … When your son ventures out on his own could be your new [lease on] life as a single woman, as crazy as that might sound now.

I hope your eyes haven’t rolled permanently back in your head after reading so much optimism :P. Shit’s @#$%ing tough right now, but you’ve raised a son - I believe you’ve got this. Be gentle with yourself and get back up when you’re ready and work to make what matters to you a reality <3

I love how protective this capy looks

Thanks for writing that up (great job :) and for posting this! ❤️ I think many of us are trying to balance not subjecting ourselves too often to the dreadful news these days while wanting to keep informed. You’re doing a noble service, but please be sure to take of yourself too. A “last updated” in the article might be helpful if you plan on updating

Please consider posting your content directly on Lemmy, especially if you’re going through a tough time and want comments ❤️. Use an alt account if your prefer

I appreciate the perspective and information. Re: Evie Lupine, she looks to exclusively do yt videos. I’ll read anything in a heartbeat, but watch a video almost never

Thanks and enjoy the asexual kink! I enjoy the sexual kind myself ;)

Sub/Dom etc are not inherently sexual as kink isn’t inherently.

Care to elaborate?

Shucks. I must have missed that part ;P

Earrings are great. Lobe piercings are among the easiest to manage. And you can change jewelry often to get the right level of masc/femme you’re looking for (e.g., studs, dangly). I find rose gold more femme than yellow gold, but finding the right jewelry colour for your skin tone (yellow gold, rose gold, silver or white gold) also looks femme. I like basic “huggies” earrings. They’re feminine without being obviously feminine, and they’re very low maintenance - easy to sleep with, never have to take them out. Once you get comfy with your lobes pierced, try a second set of lobe piercings :P

Basic (e.g., black rope) anklet is an option.

I’d like to find a choker necklace that can be worn in my he/they mode

Many cultures view jewelry as a symbol of wealth, and in some of those cultures masculine-identifying people wear much more jewelry than their masculine peers in other cultures. Your comment about rappers and having gold to afford bail sounds racist or based in racism to me

That is some top-rate voiding. Great photo 🥰

That (pillow?) looks like its purpose is to indicate where his spot should be as well :P

A+ cattitude

Thank you for posting this

Napping is easy when your foot doubles as a pillow

Good to hear, thanks! :)

I like white’s elbow patch :P

Good point 😘

Thanks for the words of wisdom :). Corral sounds lovely. And thinking of positives helps me reframe it