This also evolves into little paws poking you in the face at 2 am until you let them under the duvet.

^ Yup. I am cis, but au naturel am more masc than poster’s profile pic. Unless you won a genetic lottery which most of us have not, being conventionally attractive is expensive, time consuming, often painful-but absolutely achievable. It just takes practice and product and an occasional procedure. It is dangerous to confuse it with a natural state of being. It’s all art -smoke and mirrors and does not reflect value in any way shape or form.