I do my best for this! I’m not used to changing second person pronouns. (And have never heard of it before encountering drag.) Fortunately in text, it’s easy to take a second glance and fix where I messed up.

Ah, the fabled kitty corner.

Gorgeous kitty. I love her eyes.

Hey look, a picture of cute kids!

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I had similar problems with my parents. (But I am not transfem, just queer.)

Do you live with your mom? How long will that continue? Are you financially dependent on her? I ask because depending on her temperament your strategy will need to be more careful if so.

You say she belongs to a religion, some flavor of Christianity. I’m sure you get stories about Christians misbehaving all the time. The next time she says something about a trans person doing something actually bad (like setting something on fire?), bring up Christian misbehavior. Ask her if that means all Christians are bad. (You could do this with really any group she respects or identifies with.) When she says no, segue that into saying that there are bad folks from every group but that doesn’t mean the group is bad.

When she complains about what she thinks is misbehavior but is really not, such as queer people making fun of religion, also turn that around. Has she made fun of atheists/other religions, or does she look up to people that do? Bring that up. She will likely double double down and say it’s different, but insist it is not.

When she complains about a non-issue, like a masc person wearing a dress, you can just reiterate about what not a problem it is. So if she says something like “Look at that man with painted nails… shameful.” You can say something like “I don’t see the problem, he looks like he’s just living his life.” You can disengage but not agree with her at any time… but if she keeps digging like “well he shouldn’t do that,” just ask “Why?” to things that don’t make sense. It will boil down to a core belief that you can choose to challenge or not.

Your other option is just to not really react. Just respond with the bare minimum, like “ok.” Look up gray rocking.

There will always be people that don’t like you, some for stupid reasons, some for petty reasons, and some for valid reasons. It really hurts when someone you care about holds a poor opinion of you, and it’s not because of something you did wrong. At some point though, if her opinion doesn’t lighten up, you will just have to accept that is how she is. But the same way you cannot control her, she cannot control you. You can choose how much your mom is in your life. (And if you are a minor, you still have some control over this. She will only know what you share with her and what she can find out herself. You can only give her the bare minimum if you wish.)

Good luck out there. It sounds like she wants what’s best for you but doesn’t know much about queer people so hopefully she will come around.

Are genderqueer canine flurries corn dogs?

You ever get comfortable in bed, but you really have to pee? Sure, everything is comfy and just the way you like it, but you have this nagging feeling that won’t go away?

Yeah, it sucks to get out of bed and go to the bathroom. You have to get out of the comfort and into the cold. Stumble around and adjust your eyes to light. Get your feet onto that cold bathroom floor… but once you do it, you can get back to bed and get comfy again. The blankets might not be in exactly the same position and you might have had to swap out a few blankets, but soon enough you are settled in again. But now it’s even better because the discomfort in your bladder is gone!

Your orange kitty is precious. 🥰

No cucumbers. Can confirm this is definitely the cat’s stall.