Just my thoughts as a cis man, so feel free to ignore me: If you feel safer applying with your dead name and being closeted during the interview process, I’d say that’s a good idea. If you come out after you’re hired and have been working long enough to establish a home there, and they don’t accept you, you can always look for a new job then. Or honestly, it might be a good idea to start interviewing as your real self and maybe even have an offer in hand before coming out at your then current job.

Oh, also California (specifically the Bay Area) is super accepting. I used to live there and worked with several people who came out while I was their coworker. I didn’t notice any discrimination after they came out. It may have occurred and been under my radar, but I didn’t see anything blatant. It’s expensive, but it’s an awesome place to live.

That’s awful. :(

I don’t think I have anything helpful to say, but I want you to know the world does want you. The climate for trans people is really bad right now, but that’s temporary, and most people don’t agree with it. Most people have no problem with trans people. It’s only the loud and annoying bigots that make it feel like the world is against trans people. Progress will happen, though, and eventually the bigots will be drowned out.

But for the last part, that seems like a great time. Congratulations! :)

Congratulations! :)