Is it okay for someone agender to join in this discussion?

I relate to some of these, but I don’t experience dysphoria. I was raised female but I feel zero attachment to any particular gender expression.

Some things that come to mind:

• Never minding when somebody called me “one of the guys”
• Finding it funny when people mistook me for a boy
• I was always fascinated by medical shows, especially ones where people transitioned
• Fantasizing about freely switching between genders
• I used to make up stories with my dolls where people switched genders. Most of my Barbies got their heads swapped with Kens at some point in time.
• I hated make up. Still don’t want any. Whenever someone put make up on me, I lamented that I “didn’t look like me.”
• Dressing androgynously and choosing androgynous hair cuts
• Purposely shopping for “men’s” clothes to add to my wardrobe
• Being offended when people wanted to give me a “make over.” I guess this is something girls are supposed to be excited about, but I always thought it was a judgy way to say something was “wrong” with how I presented myself as a woman.
• Not feeling attached to any particular pronoun. I don’t like being asked about it, because I truly do not care.

My appearance is unequivocally female today, but it’s not something I care hard enough about to change. It would require significant top surgery. If I lost my breasts I think others would be more upset than I would be - I’d just double-down on the androgynous look I had before these puppies grew so much. I have told friends (both trans and cis female alike) that I’d happily donate breast tissue to them if I could.

Anyway, so that’s an agendered woman’s experiences.

Never shaving my beard, because I don’t want to see what’s underneath. Using it as a mask to hide behind.

This is very interesting. I have two MtF friends who both went through a period of having handlebar mustaches prior to transitioning. One of them hated looking in the mirror, and experimented with facial hair as a way to distract from her adam’s apple.

Cats have no owners. They must have meant “what it is like to be owned by cats”.

Common misunderstanding.