LegionEris [she/her]

If you’re of OG Futurama age, King of the Hill is pretty good about not being transphobic. I will always love Hank refusing to speak to Peggy’s friend Caroline when she answered the phone in boy mode. No, he’s looking for his wife’s friend Caroline. Please don’t try to confuse him with stories about who she used to be. He used to sell jeans, and only people close to him know that.

Random trans folk I see look right past me.

I had this happen with a whole group of trans women staying at the motel I used to work at. I passed to them to the point that there was no “oh hey!” moment, no Charlie Kelly meerkat eyes. It was a strange experience, at once sad and satisfied?

Now I work at a dispensary and smoke or vape weed every day. For better or worse, I’ll never voice pass consistently in a world with legal weed. Which I guess is fine. I’m not especially fond of the “oh whoa” moment on the faces of straight men who have decided from a distance I was a hotgirl™ and they were gonna treat me a certain way, but I guess I’d rather disarm straight people than be invisible to young trans girls.

the models and movie stars and idols and influencers

Most of them don’t actually “look like that.” They are photographed from the best angles with expensive camera equipment and lighting. Then they select the best photos from a series of mediocre to great shots. These selected photos are often then edited. There are billions of women who could look like that if they had $20k to drop on a professional makeover and photoshoot

I’m a Discordian and once walked backwards for several days as a child. Idk what that does for your data pool.

I just want to gloat about my dispensary in here. We’re definitely where the cool queers get their weed. I’ve never been treated with anything but love and respect. The GM and AM both have significant personal connections to trans people in their lives. (The AM is my best friend, and I’ve seen her tense up at the notion that a random woman looked enough like her to be her sister, because she doesn’t have a sister, and she will fight about it <3) The weekend closing manager is me. We are the only dispensary in town with the “Transgender safe space” tag on Google. (There are several with the LGBTQ friendly tag.) It’s just all around a wonderful place to work and shop.

I’m an autonomy maximalist. If you think this is right for you, do it. It’s just a wild idea to me. For me, it was a door that, once opened, could not be closed.

Ngl I wouldn’t do that for a partner. Not a chance. I don’t have family in my life. No future partners of mine will meet my family. I don’t have to meet my partners’ families. I wouldn’t make myself miserable for two weeks minimum for any family. Not a chance I would do this. You say “when I am safe again.” I wouldn’t be with a partner who wanted me to feel like that for their comfort.

Idk maybe you could find a more fucked up picture with fewer pixels for us to study =P Seriously, Sky, this isn’t a meaningful image. This image allows you to fill in the blanks with whatever terrible emotions you’re feeling at the moment you look at it. It doesn’t serve you, and you should treat yourself better than this. You’re basically bullying yourself. You should get someone who cares about you to take and select some pictures to share. They have a more objective view of your body and appearance.

Anyone can take a bad picture. I can take a shitty, low res picture that makes me look awful. I often have to take and shuffle through several shots to get the good one. And I’m fucking hot =P

Hey, please don’t insult people for being from the south or having southern accents. There are some pretty great things and people from the American south, myself included. And please remember that trans people are also a group that is often discriminated against for the way we talk.

I’m 34. It sucks trying to date when your generation is the last one that overall kinda sucked socially. In my experience with the public, even just those ~5 years younger than me tend to be way more chill and open minded. I get flirted with by guys that are way too young, hit on by creeps who are way too old, and ignored by most of the dead eyed local dudes in their 30s. And this is why I end up flirting with 25-29 year old trans boys <3

You’re fucking 22. The human body is immensely maleable, and you have an enormous amount of time. HRT doesn’t change your body. It dictates how your body will tend to change. The fat on your body isn’t moved into a more feminine shape. Your new hormonal makeup will cause you to burn old fat and deposit new fat in different places and ways. If you dedicate yourself to changing your body, your body will change into a feminine shape. Stop dooming yourself before you’ve taken yourself seriously and given yourself the time and effort you deserve. I’m in my mid 30s. I assumed, based on both research and online anecdotes, that my hips wouldn’t change much if at all. This winter I’m gonna need all new pants. The pants that fit my slightly softer hips last year barely hold me now. I have no comfortable pants because I changed more than the data suggested I would. Start taking yourself seriously. Give yourself the same respect you would give a sympathetic stranger. You’ll beat me to thriving by a decade.