Hey 👋

I started HRT Nov of 2015 at 17 and just got my SRS a month ago.

As soon as possible

Unless you have fuck loads of cash I’d say settle in for the long haul and cope, I’ve never heard of SRS costing less than £20k and that’s for basic old school PI in the UK.

Even with a full time job for years at software dev with an MSc I never managed to save anywhere close to that with the pandemic hitting as I entered the workforce, unless you’re like some boomer with a house? I take it you’re in the US? Is there insurance that covers it maybe?

As for surgeons check out the /r/Transgender_surgeries wiki.

Laser, you mean on face or genitalia? For face do Laser for now while you’re early in transition and try to zap away as much as possible. I stopped because I thought it’d be good enough and was broke, big mistake as years later my hair came back but now it was blonde and required electro, which takes forever, just some stubborn bits on neck have taken me over 2 years for now and it still doesn’t feel gone, just more sparse.

For genitalia you need electrolysis as laser is not permanent, but I wouldn’t rush into that as most people don’t need any hair removal prior to SRS, I had totally normal amount of pubes even well along the shaft and the follicle scrape took care of everything and I got no hairs inside, I woke up with most of my pubes intact to my shock even, I’m in the UK and I wasn’t circumsized so YMMV.

Get decapeptyl shots, ez and you only need it once every 12 weeks

This is why I never did penetrative sex in the top/masc role before srs cuz it just complicates shit, if I don’t know then I don’t know.

I think older trans women (as in those who transitioned over 40 and over rather than those who transitioned in teens/20s and got old later) had to deal with the brunt of completely untreated and possibly completely misunderstood/unknown dysphoria for a lot longer, they likely have a pretty complex relationship to it that forms a large part of their identity, especially through any and all coping mechanisms (maybe wanting long hair, cross dressing, etc.) and the shame and possibly social punishment that comes with that, especially in their babytrans phase.

For me it’s meh, I don’t even remember any other way anymore and I’m a pretty late transitioner by today’s standards in my late teens, I don’t really understand gender, feminine things used to freak me out as a kid, I primarily experience sex dysphoria, I present andro most days.