Yep. In regards to the “find a sex club” comment, you don’t necessarily have to participate; you can probably simply watch/socialize with others.

• Informational article: https://consentculture.community/faq-items/what-are-munches-and-how-do-i-attend-one/
• Website with a directory of local groups by country on the right side: https://findamunch.com/why-should-i-munch/

One more thing, since you mentioned a religious upbringing: assuming your upbringing was Christian and you still consider yourself Christian, and you/your spouse don’t mind reading books, I can offer some recommendations that I would consider supportive and affirmative.

Another option is to try and find a local munch or kink club. From what I understand, munches are more social in nature where people talk about sex and kink, not necessarily committing the acts at the munch. Whether or not that counts as “porn” in your eyes is up to you, but I think having the social aspect of talking to other people in real life may help ease you and your spouse into discovering a broader world of sexuality than what your conservative upbringings taught you, and perhaps making the emotional/psychological aspect of your transition easier.

The victim card!