I’m assuming it’s because most people do not keep their cats indoors here. This is a very agricultural area. So quite a lot of cats are shop/barn cats. The cat I adopted in this state is actually tattooed, but I adopted him from a shelter a little over 200 miles away and things start becoming much more urban the further in that direction you go from my “city”.

The cheaper (or often free) cat sterilization clinics near me clip ears instead of tattoo even if the animal is owned and indoor only.

Ace people are queer too :)

And really, some of us have 0 interest in sex please stop asking us. Believe it or not, romance isn’t sexual in and of itself, so it’s not impossible for us to crave romance and have no desire for sex.

And, many of us are this way without ever having experienced trauma. It’s necessary to ask someone about trauma in a relationship, but don’t assume it’s the reason for the lack of sexual interest. (In many cases it is a or the reason, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that a person doesn’t want to engage in sex)

All my irl queer friends are in the theater scene. I met them through college classes (the theater is attached to the uni), but a community theater might be a good place to start?

I don’t know if you need to hear some tough love right now, but I’m going to give it and you can choose to read it or not.

Being unhappy has a huge impact on your appearance. You look fuckin miserable in that image, and I’m betting that’s what you’re finding unattractive. You know how people always say they see the light in their own eyes after they start transitioning? It’s because they aren’t deeply miserable anymore, and they can finally be free to express themselves, not because they’re suddenly pretty or handsome.

Sky, please, find a therapist that you feel listens to you. I know you’ve been told this a lot, but there’s really nothing any of us can do as much as a good therapist can to lift you out of that pit of despair. DBT has been hugely helpful for me, so maybe try looking for that. And you know…I wouldn’t be telling you all of this if I hadn’t gone through it myself