It is victim blaming, we are not the reason homophobia exists or that people become extremely homophobic. It is not oppressed people that cause their own oppression, we don’t in some way “deserve” it.
Some aspects of the identity of sexuality may be related to physical and things we cannot control, but at the end of the day it is an identity. If they do not see themselves as gay, they are not. It is not for you to assign an identity to someone, even someone you don’t like. Even if someone might identify as gay outside of these power structures, in here they aren’t. Even if they would be gay, they participate in our oppression because being straight is beneficial to them, not because they “are secretly gay”. If they did homophobia because they were “ashamed” it wouldn’t be helping so many of them get into positions of power
There is some correlation I guess, but I generaly agree. Not all homophobes are secretly gay but those who are, guess what, wouldn’t be if it weren’t for the systemic homophobia.
It rubs me the wrong way because it appears in the comments everytime a homophobic crime happens. Yeah, he must be secretly gay. Might be, might be not, but meanwhile we have already closed the case as an internal problem. Just queers killing/abusing/assaulting each other.