I wasn’t asking you? For context, the person who reported it is not a fragile cis dude, it was someone who is queer and likely has experienced some misogyny themselves. Whether you wish to modify your behavior is entirely up to you, but kneejerk reactions and one liner responses aren’t particularly helpful here.

I’m not going to remove this because I believe the intent is to shame transphobes, but I did want you to know this was reported for misogyny. Maybe call transphobes jerks, assholes, fragile, or some other word next time 💜

I appreciate the picture they included, as it is not flattering in any way, which is the least of what he deserves in response to his intolerance.

not wrong

That’s really not how NIH grants work

I remember seeing a study once which showed regret about gender transition at about 6%.

Meta-analyses almost always put the figure at closer to 1%. It is one of the least regretted things that humans do. To provide a comparison figure, education regret tends to hover closer to 40% and parenting at 10%.

It has already extensively been studied and it has always shown that it has the least amount of regret of any surgeries, and that transgender people regret transitioning at rates often literal magnitudes lower than just about anything else people regret in their lives - children, tattoos, marriage, education, romance, leisure.

HHS direct link is down now, unsure if moved or removed

great article thanks

There’s no way for me to really know what’s going on in their heads, frankly.

What I can tell you, at least, is that I have had some partners respond to this with shock and negative emotions. They often feel that it is somehow invalidating how they feel about me. On more than one occasion I have been described as romantic which is perhaps where this feeling of invalidation is based. I very much enjoy intimacy, I simply do not experience a “romantic” attraction. I still enjoy doing many of the things that are considered normal in what is described as a “romantic” relationship (I use this term because I’m poly, I’m not coupled with anyone, just partners).

I’m aromantic and of all the labels I have, it’s the one that often gets the strongest visceral reaction from folks. Many have preconceived notions of what aromanticism is and can be and it’s deeply frustrating. It’s one of the labels I have that I am most hesitant about sharing, because it requires a conversation to explain myself. However, even after explaining myself, I believe many think I am either lying or just cannot believe that the way I view the world is true and instead substitute their own beliefs for truth.

Oh, now they are “lightly studied”? That’s walking back your point substantially. If they are “lightly studied” then why are you advocating for such harsh rules? Why not advocate for them to be studied in more depth?

their is biological advantages of transitioning without taking puberty blockers earlier

There really isn’t. The IOC (International Olympic Committee) has a set of policies based on objective science, and I would encourage you to look at them if you are interested in the science. Until then, this comment will be removed for spreading misinformation. If you wish to make claims, you need to source them.

Lot of salty folks in the comments. Yes, I hate dems too, but this is an important win when there’s so much anti-trans legislature going through across the US.

It’s really disappointing to see so many folks diverting attention away from a trans win to complain about democrats. This is the LGBTQ+ community can you please just let people be happy about one small win? There’s vanishingly little to be happy about right now for trans folks.

wholesome content, thank you for sharing

To me it seems the original comment was simply someone providing an example of how binary trans folks can be upset at being referred to as they/them, an experience that many have also shared in here. Those who have chimed in have even stated it is mostly a pet peeve or an annoyance at best. I’m not sure I share your opinion that anyone was getting their “panties in a twist” so much as they were educating and sharing, which is completely reasonable on a website of this size in an area where folks who are not queer can read and comment.

Your response makes plenty of sense given the severity of problems happening right now. I wonder, however, if your energy is not better spent elsewhere? Infighting does not serve anyone, something which I see even you preaching, yet you are even replying to my comment where I simply am reminding you to be nice (which I made as an admin only because you were reported) with strong language deriding your fellow queers and allies.

I do not think it’s particularly nice to escalate and get mad at someone who is trying gently to educate you.

This comment was reported, please remember our only rule on this website and try to be nice in the future.

smooth talker

One man, a bartender, avoided a fine by arguing that he was a goth and that was why he had eyebrow piercings, “turquoise hair” and wore a “black T-shirt rolled up to his chest”.

omg this is so cute! I wish I had a top like that

Great article, thanks!