My dad doesn’t misgender me, but he keeps deadnaming me, then apologizing by saying “you’ll always be my little boy”. I hate this so much. Why would you say that to me! It’s literally the exact opposite thing I want to hear!
Do you folks think I should tell him why I started calling him “Pop”? I picked it up from Ranma 1/2 about 30 years ago. 😂
Depending how you react, he genuinely might not realize you hate it and it feels like gentle ribbing for him. Especially since he apparently accepts it otherwise
Definitely second this recommendation, especially if they have otherwise been supportive of your transition. We had a member of our discord server who was openly trans relatively early on and had a very strict anti-bigotry policy and of course we’re very accepting the lgbtq+ community. Because of this, we have a good chunk of regular members who come out relatively early during their transition. Because of this, particularly when playing fast paced games with them, I accidentally misgender them because their voice hasn’t really changed yet to match their gender. I always tell them from the get-go and remind them from time to time that anytime I do so to please correct me and politely scold me because it’s not something I do intentionally. It’s just stupid monkey brain and that hopefully by correcting me I’ll be able to reprogram monkey brain.
My dad doesn’t misgender me, but he keeps deadnaming me, then apologizing by saying “you’ll always be my little boy”. I hate this so much. Why would you say that to me! It’s literally the exact opposite thing I want to hear!
Do you folks think I should tell him why I started calling him “Pop”? I picked it up from Ranma 1/2 about 30 years ago. 😂
Depending how you react, he genuinely might not realize you hate it and it feels like gentle ribbing for him. Especially since he apparently accepts it otherwise
I’d gently tell him if the situation allows
Definitely second this recommendation, especially if they have otherwise been supportive of your transition. We had a member of our discord server who was openly trans relatively early on and had a very strict anti-bigotry policy and of course we’re very accepting the lgbtq+ community. Because of this, we have a good chunk of regular members who come out relatively early during their transition. Because of this, particularly when playing fast paced games with them, I accidentally misgender them because their voice hasn’t really changed yet to match their gender. I always tell them from the get-go and remind them from time to time that anytime I do so to please correct me and politely scold me because it’s not something I do intentionally. It’s just stupid monkey brain and that hopefully by correcting me I’ll be able to reprogram monkey brain.
That’s misgendering.
You’re absolutely right. I know he means well, it’s just heartbreaking.
Yes, you should definitely tell him.
And then start calling him panda.