• mushroommunk@lemmy.today
    889·
    1 month ago

    Not wanting a cat doesn’t mean won’t care for a cat. I said no to another cat because I’m not prepared to care for it on top of everything else I’ve got going on.

    This whole “didn’t want a cat but is secretly a softy” thing needs to die.

    • theunknownmuncher@lemmy.world
      4610·
      1 month ago

      This whole “didn’t want a cat but is secretly a softy” thing needs to die.

      Just because it does not accurately describe you does not mean it doesn’t accurately describe many people

      • FundMECFS@anarchist.nexusEnglish
        41·
        1 month ago

        No but it’s also encouraging people to not care about others limitations.

        For example I love cats but I am too disabled to care for one.

        • doctordevice@lemmy.ca
          23·
          1 month ago

          Agreed, taking on the responsibility of caring for a pet and giving them the best life you can is a situation that requires a firm yes from all parties. Especially with how expensive everything is these days, pets are not cheap.

    • Rolder@reddthat.com
      23·
      1 month ago

      Usually it’s more like “Doesn’t want to spend time and money on a pet” and/or “Doesn’t want to be sad when the pet inevitably passes on”

      • aichan@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        34·
        1 month ago

        The first one I get it, but the second… Then don’t anything, why live when there is eventually suffering? Thats just a sad and misserable way to think damn. And there is actually people reasoning like this, why 😭

        • devfuuu@lemmy.world
          3·
          1 month ago

          Trauma, depression, ptsd, mental issues, not wanting yet another thing to push one over the edge, etc. The reasons to think and act like that are a lot. Not everyone lives life with rose tinted glasses.

    • devfuuu@lemmy.world
      4·
      1 month ago

      And money. Animals are not cheap. Specially when they get problems. Not everyone is ready for all that it entails even if they love the animals.

    • starlinguk@lemmy.world
      41·
      1 month ago

      When my cousin came to visit me for a week, she literally yelled “no!” and hit my cat when he jumped onto her lap.

      A week later, she said “I think I want a cat.” Now she has a cat.

    • the_q@lemmy.zip
      2·
      1 month ago

      Ladies and gentlemen every parent from the 80s.