Yeah there’s absolutely some pathways built there that are difficult to overcome. The one time my mum deadnamed me more recently (I’ve been out for eight years) was after she was talking about something that happened when I was younger. She got through the memory and it was like 30 seconds later and she said it to me directly when getting my attention. Bless her she clearly had been trying hard not to deadname me during the story, then let her guard slip after finishing and it popped out. She was completely mortified* and apologetic. She’s in her sixties as well though, like how can I be mad at her for that?
Yeah there’s absolutely some pathways built there that are difficult to overcome. The one time my mum deadnamed me more recently (I’ve been out for eight years) was after she was talking about something that happened when I was younger. She got through the memory and it was like 30 seconds later and she said it to me directly when getting my attention. Bless her she clearly had been trying hard not to deadname me during the story, then let her guard slip after finishing and it popped out. She was completely mortified* and apologetic. She’s in her sixties as well though, like how can I be mad at her for that?