• Kichae@wanderingadventure.party
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    7 days ago

    Sute, but the thing they like is “D&D”, and D&D isn’t just a game anymore, it’s an identity signifier. Pointing people to other games before establishing yourself as firmly not attacking their identity is going to trigger a fight.

    • kattfisk@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      6 days ago

      It’s not about identity as much as it’s a very poor way to try to convince someone.

      Don’t base your line of argument on a statement you know the other person will likely disagree with.

      For example “You should play Pathfinder because DnD sucks”, holds no weight to people who don’t think that DnD sucks. In fact if they happen to like DnD, it undermines your argument, because if you disagree about DnD, aren’t you also likely to disagree about Pathfinder?

    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      7 days ago

      D&D isn’t just a game anymore, it’s an identity signifier

      Which is part of the problem. Like talking to someone who only drinks Coca-Cola about trying a new bag of tea you brought over.

      attacking their identity

      If you’ve wedded yourself so deeply to the brand that you feel attacked whenever someone levels a critique, you’re probably not mature enough to be at my table.

      • Kichae@wanderingadventure.party
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        7 days ago

        Ok, but these discussions aren’t happening at you’re table. “Well, fuck them then” isn’t exactly helpful.

        • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
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          7 days ago

          “Well, fuck them then”

          Isn’t what I said. But if that’s what you’ve heard, you’re illustrating my point.