I’d rather own one Bhåhaj than Twitter.

French, like all languages, is also a social construct.

Never heard of it. Sounds made up.

You know it’s really rude to just post my diary pages publicly like that.

You should hear their national anthem:

🏳️‍⚧️ All rise. 🏳️‍⚧️

That’s awesome! I’m happy for you!

I’m a little confused as to why people you don’t know are commenting on your social media posts. You may want to lock that down before it becomes a problem.

The wedding thing makes sense. If you’re in a relationship, people just assume it’s going to be a deal-breaker for your partner… while usually your partner has known the longest.

“Okay, so I’m not racist, but… [the most racist and out of nowhere opinion that no one asked for].”

Knowing snails, it’s probably trying to determine if that turtle is edible.

(Snails are herbivorous, but very dumb.)

When the sunlight strikes raindrops in the air, they act as a prism and form a rainbow. 🌈

Voice training is so frustrating at the start, but sooo worth it (for me anyway). I had no idea how much dysphoria it would alleviate. In my experience, when people are on the fence about how to gender you, they use your voice as a tie-breaker.

But yeah, the early stages suck. It can feel even more dysphoric in the beginning because of how uncomfortable it feels. But it really does get better with practice. Consistency is key. 5 min 4 days in a row is way better than one 20 session.

Also, you probably already know this, but taking a sip of water will clear your throat and it’s way better for your voice.

Yes, that’s correct. Exercise affects which muscles get built. Diet affects how much fat you have. Hormones and genetics determine where that fat gets distributed.

You should probably focus on cardio, leg, and core exercises if you want to build your hips. Personally, I’ve found stairs to be great for the butt and thighs.

This is an incredibly informative (if not a bit intimidating) post, thank you!

This is an important aspect to ongoing health that women should know before bottom surgery, and I don’t see it talked about much.

I just read this article about beauty standards and while I see the excess of it as harmful I can’t help but feel hypocritical when I think about laser or hormones or even putting on eye shadow and mascara, not to mention FFS.

I’ve struggled with these same thoughts, and while I do believe there is a line between pursuing gender euphoria and pursuing societal beauty standards, finding that line can be very challenging (and subjective).

There is something to be said about acceptance, and I think no matter where you are in your transition, you should show yourself love and grace, because you are so much more than just your appearance. However, if some aesthetic change alleviates dysphoria for you and makes you happier, then by all means, allow yourself to be happier.

At the end of the day, you should do with your body that which brings you joy. Follow what feels right, don’t run from what feels wrong. Changes motivated by insecurities are often an endless treadmill that keep you dissatisfied with your body, while following a lifestyle that feels authentic to you will likely have lasting positive effects.

Both require the same underlying systems - and my face laser wouldn’t be attainable without the massive beauty industry making it affordable by virtue of many cis women using the service.

Similar with hormones. If most postmenopausal women didn’t get E prescribed, then it would be prohibitaly expensive

I don’t think this is a fair criticism. You aren’t responsible for these systems by utilizing them. It’s impossible to live life without interacting with an unethical system. While we can try our best to support the things we agree with, sometimes you only have one option. That’s not your fault as the consumer. IMO the “market decides” mentality is an excuse for these industries to avoid their very real responsibility.

I don’t think gender affirming care or the systems enabling it (especially at the rates they are prescribed) is doing much harm, and the good they bring far outweighs it.

It’s collar-bone-o-clock, fellas!

It seems like you already have your pros and cons list. This kind of decision seems way too important to leave up to internet commenters with no other context about your life.

I mean… they make fake ones you can attach if so inclined.

At least there’s always https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Costco_hot_dog

Me when my co-workers started mansplaining my own job to me.

Make sure you wear sunscreen even if you’re a tans woman.

For the dysphoria, I know it can feel crippling and make you want to give up. For some trans folk, it takes a lot of daily work to present how they feel. It can be really hard to want to keep it up when you feel like it’s still not enough. I’ve been there many times.

However, the best thing you can do to drive back the dysphoria (and depression in general) is to take those steps—put in the work and do the things that bring you euphoria. It may not get you to where you want to be, but it’ll get you a whole lot closer, and every little bit helps.

It might help to identify, specifically, what about your body/life is bringing you dysphoria. Start with small things. That way you can make some concrete goals to work on rather than the big nebulous cloud of “I look wrong and I don’t like it”.

Also, I don’t know your life, but I suspect there might be more contributing to your depression than dysphoria. It’s definitely worth some introspection to identify and work on those other areas of your life. ADHD especially often comes with a whole host of (treatable) struggles that make life in our society extra challenging.