Your local bi(polar) schizo fluffernutter.

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Cake day: December 30th, 2023

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  • For me, the changes happened really gradually, and some changes didn’t happen at all (which is normal, because it’s not the same for everyone, not even cis women.) It took around 2 years before I started noticing any changes, and around 4 before I stopped noticing any more changes. It can vary a lot though.

    It’s also worth noting even once you’ve experienced all the changes, it won’t feel the same every time. For instance, for me, it’s only a full body experience if it’s a good one. Otherwise it doesn’t feel much different in nature from a guy’s orgasm. It does definitely last longer usually though. Usually around 15 seconds, but it can go up to… well, actually, I’ve never felt the need to break out a stop watch.

    There’s some things that for me never changed though. For instance, it doesn’t take any longer to build up, and I almost never can have multiple in a row. Although I’m still responsive to stimulation, it just doesn’t go anywhere. On very rare occasions I’ve had consecutive ones, but it’s been that way since even before I transitioned.

    Also, I’ve seen a lot of claims that female orgasms are more intense than male orgasms. For me at least, that is absolutely not the case. They feel different, but intensity wise it’s exactly the same. I do react more physically, but not because it feels better, rather just because estrogen did that to me for some reason.

    I think honestly the line between “male” and “female” orgasm are a lot blurrier than people think and it’s not really a useful way to think about it. Not everyone will even experience changes to their orgasms and that’s not because there’s something wrong, it’s just because there’s so much natural variance that many women just naturally experience what is often called a “male” orgasm.

    I’ve seen a lot of trans women get really disappointed thinking something must be wrong because they haven’t achieved the fabled “female orgasm.” Just know that that’s a very idealized version of a female orgasm that not even most cis women, in my experience, meet. It’s completely normal for some things to change but not others, or even on occasion for almost nothing to change at all.




  • That’s definitely a factor. I dated somebody for a while who wasn’t just okay with the idea of me keeping it, but was even enthusiastic about it, and for that time I was a lot more comfortable with it, but I still wanted surgery, just not as badly as I did before. I think it’s not so much the “I need to get the surgery to be a real woman” though, and more “I need to get the surgery to feel complete.” Like I feel like I haven’t finished everything I wanted for so long to do and just deciding not to now would feel like, why was I concerned about it for so long?
    But there is also an aspect of what I have just feeling wrong. I know what I’d want if it was possible, but it literally isn’t physically possible. I’d want female anatomy that can grow into male functioning anatomy when needed. That’s technically possible in a satisfactory way with some surgeries, but it’s not something that’s an option for me. I’m on medicaid, so I can only get what’s covered, and that isn’t. I have to choose one or the other.



  • I have a gigantic ultrawide monitor, and 90% of the reason for that was because I figured if my cat sat in front of it I could just move the window I’m using to a spot he’s not blocking. The bastard watches my eyes and moves to block it again. He will not settle for anything less than the center of attention.


  • I picked my name when I was trying to name a character in a story I was writing. It ended up being a really nice name, so I said “Screw it, that’s my name now. I’ll just rename the character.”

    Also, plenty of people are named after characters from TV shows. My dead name was from a TV show apparently, but I dunno which one. In the end, even if it wasn’t a common thing, if you like the name, use it. It’s better than settling for another name you don’t like as much and having to live with it when all your documents get changed.